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[–]newguy222238 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thats not a shit test lol
[–]yurifca 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's what I thought lol.
It's a normal question brah
[–]DonManolo[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I feel that shes not in my camp yet and likely to flake. Maybe you're right tho.
[–]NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Never underestimate a woman's need to feel safe. That's not a shit test (in conventional terms). Your response should be tailored to A) make her feel safe and B) be playful while still controlling the frame. My suggestion: redirect. "I'm not sure i feel safe with you yet, you may be a black widow out for trophies.... we can get coffee, but only if i have witnesses ready to save me..." or sum shit, like that.
[–]true_gunman 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro you have already invested way too much into this by making a post about. You're just overthinking it
[–]Dodechaedron 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Planning and organizing is entirely your task ...
[–]desperadopimp -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"DO? Wow slow down. I've been thinking of coffee or something. You're moving way to fast for me."
[–]desperadopimp -3 points-2 points-1 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's cocky and makes her trust that you don't have any "ideas" with her.
It's also future pacing what might happen if you hang out long enough.
[–]SnapSocialGuru 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Send me the rest of the convo. I'll give you some feedback
I said shes cool and we should get off this dating app and start doing fun stuff.
She said "like what I'm open to suggestion"
I say "Let's hit up _____" a neighborhood where people typically go to be social and enjoy going out.
She says "and do?"
To me, it's obvious we are going out to meet eachother and talk. I think a normal response would be "sounds cool let's go tuesday"...
[–]jestercake 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Adventure
[–]enjsndi9999999999 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Holy shit y’all overanalyze everything. You answering a question doesn’t make it a failure... you trying overly hard to seem “cool” is and shows needy behavior and insecurity. A shit test is something deeper aka testing to see if your values are strong and consistent, can she easily sway your opinion on something you’re adamant on? Can she disrespect you in front of people and you don’t do anything. These are shit test....... not wondering where you’re going on a date...
[–]DonManolo[S] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Lol relax buddy
I think questioning my date plan can achieve desired shit test effect for a girl
[–]enjsndi9999999999 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No you’re just insecure lmfao
I am kinda insecure so I came here for advice
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