Here are some limiting thoughts that sometimes hold me back. Do these resonate with any of you?

meat_delivery · 2012-11-22T00:41:56+00:00

Well, as groups like RSD say, this whole thing is to improve yourself, so "learning" this stuff will be weird to anyone else if it's weird to you, because your personality and the way you behave in social interactions would have to change.
Becoming a social person, that's what your goal should be, which would ultimately lead to success with women, but as long as you are so insecure about yourself (at least that's what I get from reading your post) I don't see how you could manage to make progress. You seem rather introverted, and you defintely give one or two fucks too much; also, it isn't weird to approach someone in the daytime, but you think it is because it doesn't seem natural to you. This is your problem, what they call inner game. Go out, meet people, interact and try to change something about that. As long as your coworkers think it would be weird for you to go out, you are definitely not in the state you wanna be. Raising the question: Why would it be weird if some young coworkers saw you at a bar or club? You could drink one, talk, and suddenly it wouldn't be weird anymore, because it would be natural and they would see that you are, in fact, not just a grumpy old guy who only works and has no social life. Get some confidence and don't care so much about what others think of you, find your better self, and stop fucking your ex!
Hope I could help you a bit..

pickup_sticks · 2012-11-22T02:03:44+00:00

Try addibg "and the consequences will be [fill in the blank]"

"If a young coworker sees me out at a bar or club, they're going to wonder what the hell I'm doing there"

What are the consequences? In most cases nothing. Caveats for work (don't shit where you eat) and family (you have to maintain these relationships forever)

That said, I've found that most people either don't give a shit or actually admire me for living the playboy life. I'm 44.

blahm3 · 2012-11-22T02:06:49+00:00

How is learning pickup any more weird than girls learning how to dress or wear makeup to get a guys attention from cosmo? Don't girls want to meet guys who 'Get it'. Who know what they are doing? Do you think they learn it in Algebra class?

Call them out on this. When they can't defend their position they will quickly wither away in defeat.

moveshhh · 2012-11-22T09:47:58+00:00

I prefer approaching women in the daytime over nighttime 9/10 times. the key is how to find these women. join a class. always works for me. in my neck of the woods, rock climbing is huge. met tons of cute girls by joining a rock climbing class. daytime > nighttime

30vanquish · 2012-11-22T09:57:41+00:00

Imagine letting your fear get in the way of making the day of a lonely girl. Imagine letting your fear get in the way of the women you want to meet. Imagine letting your shame get in the way of offering pleasure to another human being.

That visualization helps me. Wow I robbed that girl out of a respectful conversation that couldve led to a date or hangout all because of my own mental conflict? That's terrible

For friends and family and co workers who are curious you can tell them it's socializing in your way and learning to be a better person. Everyone else it doesn't matter.

WorstOfThem · 2012-11-22T00:10:39+00:00

Just don't give a fuck! Seriously you're doing this for you, fuck what anyone else thinks. It's going to make you a better person even if you're not using it to pick up women.

No one is going to know unless you talk about it. It's nothing to be embarrassed about anyway. I'm sure once you start and you see some positive results you'll be like 'this is amazing I should of done this sooner!'

I thought it was strange at first but I've been doing it for a couple days (mainly on people I already know) and I've gotten some great results! Just dive in bro, the waters great!

b204257 · 2012-11-22T23:27:07+00:00

Don't think about it just act. Next time you see a lady don't even give yourself time to run things through your head. 3 second rule. Just look. "Yup she's attractive," and go talk to her.

I honestly don't think it's weird. I've told my friends about seddit. your trying to learn something. The definition of power is the ability to exact ones will over others. Seduction is a tool of power. Now what you do with it is up to you. I use it to get to know people. Men or women. I've progressed in my career and got meaningful dates. I don't do it to just fuck women. If you do there's nothing wrong with that but again its how you view things. Don't worry about other people, or how they view you. How do you view yourself. I hope positively. it seems to me you think other people will think its weird because well.... you think it's weird.

moveshhh · 2012-11-23T00:02:18+00:00

correct. this is a great way to expand your social circle tho and approach their friends

Title	Here are some limiting thoughts that sometimes hold me back. Do these resonate with any of you?
Author	reade2
Upvotes	11
Comments	15
Date	November 21, 2012 11:37 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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