Here's a rant about some things I've learned over the years that I wanted to share with you guys. Brace yourself, it's a bit long.

Hello Seddit. This is my first post here so I'll apologize in advance for breaking any rules.

I wanted to make this post to share what I've learned in my 30 years on this earth, in hopes that I can help someone out. These are not only tips on the art of seduction, but also on how to generally be a good person, which in turn will make you more attractive in the eyes of the fairer sex. I also believe it will help myself to type it all out and be able to see it for myself. It's all up in the noggin, but sometimes it just needs to be put out in a format to make a little more sense. I'll also apologize for my lack of writing skills. I'm a lowly blue collar worker with a high school education, who also enjoys learning on my own terms. So writing is not my strong point.

First things first. Appearance. I don't care who you are, how good your game is, or how good looking you are. If your appearance is "I don't care what others think" you probably won't get anywhere with most women. There is no 1 perfect style for everyone that will drop the panties off of every girl. What's important is to find a style that you like, that women also like and own that shit. Clean clothes that at least look new are key. Some men go for a more casual look, others go for more dressy/ preppy, and too many go for douchey. I personally go for casual and comfortable. Nice jeans with a t-shirt. I always wear really nice shoes. Match your colors. Not 100%, but if I wear my black shirt with red letters, I will wear my black nikes with red accent. These small details are (possibly subconsciously) noticeable to many. Especially women who tend to judge by what a man wears. She probably won't even realize what is so specific, but if you match, you will look well put together. I you have a yellow shirt with green shoes, you look silly, and that IS noticeable.

-Hygiene and style. "I showered yesterday, but I didn't do anything today. I'll be good for another day". That's fine if you're not trying to meet women. But just because you can't smell your own BO, doesn't mean the rest of the world can't. Brush those teeth, use hair gel, keep a clean hair cut. I personally am growing my hair out. So there is a lot more I have to do in order to look acceptable. Shampoo, conditioner, jojoba oil, dry conditioner, comb, style, and usually restyle if it doesn't look right. I also have a bushy beard. This IMO makes it harder to pick up women. Not everyone is attracted to men with beards. But again, shampoo, condition, jojoba oil, comb, and beard brush to keep that shit down. Don't want a puffy beard. Not many are attracted the homeless man on the side of the road, so don't mimic him. But again, I'll reiterate, own your look. It has served me well.

-Attitude. Us men. We have quite the egos. In some aspects a big ego can be attractive. In most it is not. If you get rejected, be polite and move on. You're an adult. Act like it. Too many men get all butt hurt when a girl just isn't into them and continue to pester and badger her. "Why won't you give me your number, aren't I good looking enough for you? I'm a really nice guy, but since you're being a bitch you'll never know. Good luck finding a nice guy with that attitude" I say to you, good luck finding any girl with THAT attitude. Understand that not every girl will be attracted to you. Just as you aren't attracted to every girl. I know it's a blow to your ego, but suck it up and move on.

-I'll roll right in with confidence. It goes with ego and attitude. You've gotta learn to like yourself. Nay, love yourself. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. When you find that right haircut and that right style that works on you, your confidence will skyrocket. You will look in the mirror and smile and say "I look good"! When you go out to meet people, you will feel good and people will see that your In a good mood and happy. And let's be honest, everyone wants to be around happy people. Over confidence is a big problem with many men however. You will fail at first when learning that happy medium between confident, arrogant, and just plain insecure. I myself can be borderline arrogant with some, and insecure with others. But I like to think I'm humble enough, that when it's pointed out what an ass I'm being (or overly arrogant) I kind of apologize, back off a bit, but keep up with confident.

-What's in yo noggin? Lets talk about smarts. Most girls don't like dumb guys. Plenty of all star gorgeous men get turned down for how dumb they might be. Like I said earlier, I'm a lowly blue collar worker with a high school education. One time I started registering for college. I even got my student ID. But I never took a single course. Does that mean I'm stupid? Maybe. But I also enjoy learning things on my own, at my own pace. I read fairly often. When an interesting topic is laid at my feet, I turn to my old pal google. He has taught my so much over the years. He links me to multiple websites on the subject I'm looking for. Let's also read book guys. If you're one of those slow, uneducated type, READ A DAMN BOOK! At least one or two a year. If you're a slow reader, do it anyway. When I was 20 I was not only a slow reader, but I couldn't focus, or comprehend hardly anything I'd read. But I kept doing it. At the time I had a lot of time on my hands and would read several hours a day just to get through the book. I set a deadline and had to finish it by then. By the end of the book my reading speed began to increase, I was comprehending, and could retain the information. I'm not saying I'm the best reader now, but I wouldn't be embarrassed to read aloud to a group of people like when I was 20. Practice makes perfect as you see plenty in this subreddit. Goes for reading and writing and every fucking thing. How about grammar? Apparently it's soooo cool to text like an uneducated hillbilly nowadays. I truly believe our society is going to shit because kids can't fucking spell. Well guess what, they're fucking KIDS! You are an adult! Do you think you were cool at their age? I don't think I was. I think it's cool to find a girl I can text that I don't have to guess what the hell "k c U wn I gt thr lol" means (this is a bad example, but you get the point). Guess what? There are a lot of educated girls out there that will scoff when you don't know the difference between there, their, and they're. This simple difference could be the reason that cute girl you met at the bar stopped texting you. It might not be a big deal to you, but it might be a deal breaker for her. So for humanity's sake, and possibly your dicks sake, can we please stop texting like 10 year olds? (I would also like to make a note here that there are plenty of exceptions to this rule. Not many people will care if you abbreviate to save time in most cases. As long as you actually know how to spell and do it most of the time. As you can probably tell, this is a hot button issue with me).

-The dreaded "Friend Zone". It sucks. We've almost all been there. Like said in the attitude section, not everybody will be into you. NO MATTER HOW NICE OR GOOD OF A GUY YOU ARE!!! The sooner you understand this the better off you will be. Please please please read this article: http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml Yes, a good girl wants a nice guy. But how nice are you being? Is she actually interested romantically? Is she using you? These are questions you need to ask yourself when your female friend "doesn't see you that way" but still wants to remain best buds. Then ask yourself if you can change your view of her to just friends. In my case, I've had to tell girls straight up that I can't continue being friends with them because I'll only want to make advances. That would not be good for any friendship. There are plenty of other girls out there that will be just as "perfect" as her. Trust me. She won't be the only one that makes you feel that way. It sucks at first, but again I say to you, suck it up and move on (sorry if you're too sensitive and this is harsh, but it needs to be said). It will get better.

-Who are you really? Do you play video games 6 nights a week and go out 1 to pick up girls? If you can do it then do it. But most girls will want to be around someone fun and adventurous. Even if she isn't. She wants you to break her out of her shell and take her on that hike. Or go mountain biking. She probably never would have done it herself. It'll also show that you aren't lazy. This is a good thing. On the flip side of that, are you gone every single weekend because you're just that active? This might be too intense for her. I'm not saying change your whole life just to meet women, but there's a good medium between lazy and crazy active. Most ladies don't like blobs who never get out or take care of themselves. So let's move on to...

-Diet and exercise. Are you always tired? Minor medical problems? Even some major medical problems. Take a look at your diet. I was preached to by this crazy Russian guy I used to work with that my minor health issues were due to my diet. I honestly didn't believe it until I gained 25 lbs since my divorce last year in February. I've never been a big guy. Usually weighed in at around 145 lbs. I got up to 173 lbs about 2 1/2 months ago. I had a gut, my 6 pack was non existent. I honestly felt like a piece of shit. So I made some small but positive steps to getting back in shape. I already didn't eat fast food very often or soda (other than energy drinks) but I cut both of those all together. Processed foods are BAD for you. They will make you fat, unhealthy, and unhappy. There places online you can go to enter you age, weight, gender, and goals, and it will tell you how many calories you should be consuming a day. I highly recommend this. It will be hard at first, but soon your stomach will shrink, and your body will crave healthier foods, making this easier. I would suggest weening yourself down and not go from 5000 calories a day straight to 1500. You will starve and it will suck. Start eating organic. Fruits and veggies. Good fats. Take supplements such as fish oil. It's being tossed around that you lose your belly (or most of your fat) in the kitchen. 70% diet, 30% exercise. Allow yourself a cheat day now and then. Last night I had an In-N-Out burger. Today, it's back to healthy eating till I get another day off work probably. This topic goes along with confidence. When you look good and feel good, confidence skyrockets. Set yourself some goals and do what you have to do to meet them. I bought a heart rate monitor to keep track of my calories burned during walks/ hikes and workout. I then allow, if inclined, to be able to take in more calories that day. I myself am not even close to 100% strict on this subject. But in about 2 months I lost 10 lbs and about 3% in body fat. It's not huge, but I look noticeably better and feel fan fucking tastic! My energy is through the roof and confidence is too. Don't have time or money for a gym? Yeah, me either. I Torrented the insanity workout. I watch it on my laptop in my bedroom and workout to that. I haven't followed it even close to 100% but it got me started. I still do some of the workouts but it isn't as often as I'm kind of limited with what I want out of working out (I.e. wanting to get bigger muscles. Arms, chest, legs, etc) I will very soon need to get a gym membership to accomplish these goals. Also note that I work 84 hrs a week, 2 weeks on 1 week off. It can get hard to be motivated on that second week, but I power through it. If my lazy ass can do it, so can yours. Your dick might thank me later for it.

I know I'm a bit all over the place, but I'm no writer, so deal.

-Be a good person in general. Lets treat people like people. I'm not trying get all hippy on you, but what's it going to hurt to make a donation to the thrift store? Or donate a little of your time to a charity? Run a 5k for whatthefuckever and donate $5. The more people that do this make a huge difference in the world. And then let's use this selfless act for selfish reasons. Don't just do it so you can brag. Do it to help others and be decent. That doesn't mean you won't look like a fucking hero when a girl asks what you did last Saturday and you can respond with charity work, gym, and saving a little girls kitten from a tall tree. I've noticed that girls don't like selfish guys and what better way to show them you're selfless by some kind of charity work. Maybe you can invite her on the next event.

Ok gentlemen. I'm growing weary of this post. There's a lot of info in there that I hope helps some people here. Not everything I know or believe or can even think of right now is being discussed, but it's good start. I have tons more knowledge in my head that I'm dying to share, but am not sure how to specifically put it out there. Go ahead and open up discussion here I you'd like. Ask questions, critique me, whatever. I also might edit in some more info as I think of it. If you ask me to rant about something and I make an edit, I will comment so you know it's been addressed.

Thanks guys and good luck out there.

Tl;dr: Get money, fuck hoes!

Edit: need a suggestion on a book to read? Start with "How to Win Friends and Influence People". It will help you become a great leader and decent human being.