Honest question; How the hell do I get laid?

Bricemck · 2017-11-27T00:49:01+00:00

Your desperation is clearly visible. Stop it.

Do you honestly think women would be attracted to this? Women like confidence and strength of character and this is neither. You’ve got to do some things to get your sense of self respect back.

Stop degrading yourself and go hit the gym tomorrow.

flashgordon_12 · 2017-11-27T01:34:45+00:00

You claim you don't care "if it sounds pathetic" or that you "shouldn't put pussy on a pedestal." But the fact of the matter is you DO care, you've let society dictate your worth based on your ability/inability to have sex.

I do in fact know what being an adult virgin is like, I didn't get laid until my late 20s. It was a 3rd date at my place. Afterwards, she was extremely surprised to find out I was a virgin beforehand, since she didn't get that kind of vibe from me throughout the 3 dates. It was honestly one of the greatest complements I've ever received. Do you HONESTLY think that you'll stay a virgin until your death, 50 or 60 years from now? Even if you do die a virgin, it is pretty presumptuous to think anyone would care. Your tombstone isn't gonna say "Here lies mindmonkey00, who died forever a virgin." Your death won't be defined by your virginity, so don't let that shit define you while you live either. You need to focus on 1) learning to love yourself and 2) having a good time

brianbria · 2017-11-27T01:53:30+00:00

If just getting laid is your goal, then go to a brothel.

If I were you and I wanted sex with a girl that wanted me not for money but because she was attracted or just horny, then I would do the following:

Develop your social circle first and become friends with fun guys that go out a lot. This can seriously help over the long run. They will invite you to parties, bars, they will show you how they get laid, you will emulate them, they may help you with fashion and working out etc. So get a good group of cool guy friends first, if nothing else your self esteem will go up.
Talk to new girls every week. Tell them exactly what is going through your mind. E.g "I'm thinking you're very attractive, and I'd like to go home with you." in a confident and seductive tone of voice.
Roll with the rejections
Watch girls body language and constantly be moving things forward. If a girl leans into you, whisper in her ear, touch her back, kiss her neck etc. If a girl leans back, stop. If a girl is staying still, check to see if she is scared or just indifferent. But constantly be aware of her, as well as yourself.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-27T05:58:18+00:00

TL;DR: Skip to #4, or read the whole thing.

____1____

I try tinder but I get the feeling I'm not enough of a model for that to work. Sometimes I can land a date but girls are so hesistant to get sexual.

It's not that you're not a model. It's that you're pushing too hard, apparently. Usually the first meet is like an interview to see if the other person is stable and not awkward in person.

If things aren't progressing from there, then you're allowing your preoccupation with sex to make shit really awkward and you're not connecting with these girls as you need to in order for anything to happen.

This is not just mindset. I'm talking about behavior. When you're socializing with a girl, you need your focus out in the world, gathering information that you can use to come up with conversation points and so you know how to make adjustments in your approach. Instead of now, where you're preoccupied with sex.

____2____

I'm a virgin and I desperately want to have sex. I don't care if it sounds pathetic. I don't care if I shouldn't put pussy on a pedestal.

You don't care.

But you want sex. So why the fuck wouldn't you care about what the girls want?

And what they want is to be seen as people, not just fuckholes or pussy on a pedestal. People like to be seen as people.

____3____

You don't know what being an adult virgin is like and how important sex is when you've never had it.

Get over yourself. It's reasonable to say that most of the guys in here either are adult virgins or were. I certainly was.

So how about we cut the damn pity party out and back the train up WAY the fuck up. You don't get to speak for us. And don't try to misrepresent us to justify these limiting mindsets you seem to be fighting to hold onto.

You may say sex isn't a big deal......you don't need to tell me.

What's more, your whole point here in bringing this up, was simply because of what you ASSUMED guys would say to you. Part of your obstacle here is that you're spending too much time IMAGINING social interactions instead of being in them. This is apparently just another example, in addition to your meets with Tinder girls.

And again, most of us here DO know what it's like to be where you are now. Those are just the facts. So don't try to tell US that it's impossible to calm the raging sex hormones down. Many of us did exactly that, before we were able to have sex.

____4: Something practical____

I'm thinking of trying bars and clubs just to score a ONS. I hear this is simplest way to get it over with. How has your experience been with this?

Look, here's the thing. Seduction isn't some special thing. It's socializing. So if you want to build the core set that leads to sex, you have to get your ass out there and socialize.

And it's going to be easiest if you're going out and socializing with everyone, not just women you want to have sex with.

For more details on this, brianbria actually did a good job describing this in his reply.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-27T05:58:23+00:00

Hello, this post is being removed for being too basic and already answered.

Your post is answered in the SIDEBAR

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If you really want an answer, then please repost in /r/askseddit (not askReddit, but ask SEDDIT).

Thank you!

Title	Honest question; How the hell do I get laid?
Author	mindmonkey00
Upvotes	1
Comments	27
Date	November 26, 2017 11:54 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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