Honestly, do you game better while drunk or sober?

dablac · 2012-12-02T09:12:47+00:00

Better sober, easier drunk.

colucci · 2012-12-02T06:37:30+00:00

Funny you're speaking about plowing through 'AA' in an alcohol related thread.

2012-12-02T15:42:16+00:00

I don't drink to overcome AA, I drink because rye whiskey is delicious.

Booze does not help my game. I'm not the most self-aware cat to begin with, and once I'm buzzing it does not help things. I get less thoughtful about my pickup and start missing cues, etc.

Being stoned is the worst though, I can't accomplish anything with girls when I'm stoned. Stims aren't great either, I lose restraint on blow and get too talkative.

My best state is probably 1-2 drinks. I failed to close a solid 9 on Thursday because I imbibed lots of every substance around me and got a little weird, lol. Had a great time though.

colucci · 2012-12-02T06:36:55+00:00

Alcohol is to your social life like steroids is to training. The difference is that you can replicate the effect of alcohol while being sober, and you can't do that with roids. Analyze the effects alcohol has on you - you smile more, you are your true self without any will to be accepted in any social circle, and most importantly, you escalate like crazy. Force yourself to do that when you're sober and you won't need alcohol to talk to anyone.

frogma · 2012-12-02T06:36:20+00:00

I've never really been "bad" with girls -- I had various girlfriends throughout grade school/high school (having said that, there have been a million situations where I've been terrible with girls, to the point where I'd go a few years without really talking to any) . But my first real "one-night-stand" was during a drunken night in college. Actually I'd say the first dozen or so one-night-stands were heavily influenced by the alcohol.

Regardless, the start of college was the turning-point for me. I went out-of-state, so nobody knew me, and I had a sort of "realization" that I could be whoever I wanted to be. So I took some cues from actors and the star athletes from my high school, and acted a bit more like how they would act -- I said whatever I wanted, and just assumed people would appreciate it. And it worked -- I got my first college girlfriend on the first day of college, who happened to be pretty sexually open.

I still kinda used alcohol as a crutch (and in some regard, I still kinda do now, but I'm a self-proclaimed alcoholic, so that's not a huge deal. I just like to party).

The main ways that I don't use alcohol as a "crutch" are when I meet girls during the day, or when I meet them at a bar before actually drinking anything. For both situations, all I can say is that it gets much easier with experience once you take the first step outside your comfort zone. It also will help if you have a decent mindset in general -- for me, a "revelation" of sorts is what changed my thinking. For other guys, it might take something different (or just simple experience).

To reiterate on what I said initially, it's basically like I was playing a "role" as the guy who just automatically knows what to do and how to do it. I didn't actually have much experience in that role, but since it was simply a "role," I guess I sort of detached myself in a way, so I didn't think about it as if I myself was risking anything by approaching random girls. That's just how it worked out for me though. Other guys might need to take a totally different approach to it.

lilhurt38 · 2012-12-03T02:49:21+00:00

I'm ballsier when I'm drunk. I don't pick up on things as well though. When I should be doing something, I'm drunk and doing something else. I've had friends tell me that I've had HB10s dancing all up on me and giving me crazy IOIs and I'm just in party mode and I leave the set. Drunk me doesn't give a shit about getting laid, he just wants to have fun and party. Girls like that lack of restraint and I can usually number close at least 1 or two girls by the end of the night. Drunk me is just too preoccupied with partying and forgets to number close or k-close.

Freevoulous · 2012-12-02T15:37:40+00:00

DRUNK - ONS, fishing for fuckbuddies

SOBER - when looking for a long term relationship.

It is that simple.

2012-12-04T04:52:01+00:00

When I have 2 or 3 beers in me I have infinite confidence and will approach every single girl I see with reckless abandon, I try my best to do the same sober but I'm just not as ridiculously confident. I never really get blackout drunk, but I'll always drink a few when I go out just to get loosened up.

2012-12-04T16:58:59+00:00

I'm the best when I'm buzzed. Sober confidence + alcohol is best.

achoj · 2012-12-06T06:11:04+00:00

Buzzed definitely makes approaching easier for me. Having said that, when I'm on the verge on blacking out/ already have, I just go crazy and escalate hard with any girl, open with making out etc and usually have about half a dozen numbers in my phone by the morning, but nothing to show for it in my bed because I just get too wasted to f-close.

Pequeninos · 2012-12-03T19:44:49+00:00

After a couple drinks, when any approach anxiety is gone and I don't have any fear of messing up, I do really well and almost always number close. I'm working on my sober game.

Title	Honestly, do you game better while drunk or sober?
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