Met this girl, slept with her, stayed round her several times with just kissing and light foreplay but she confuses the hell out of me.
She frequently leaves extremely short messages which leave my minimal room to activate further conversations. So I feel I am forcing conversation.
I ask her to hang out (due to work schedule she couldn’t go out out), then her female friend turns up and joins us for the whole evening (I know this friend quite well so it wasn’t intimidating). While she seemed distant and abrupt the whole evening.
I want to be consistent so I always send goodnight messages which she always responds to. My plan was to pull away abit so I didn’t seem so eager as I actually quite like her, I’m careful to not smother her with my presence.
I ditched my goodnight message last night and didn’t initiate any conversation to see what would happen, alas she messages me first. We have a short conversation, she ends it without a response just emojis.
I have hinted I’m into her without quite saying it and she seems keen to keep whatever we ‘have’ a secret.
How should I read this? Any suggestions on a plan?
UPDATE/EDIT
Cheers for the very similar opinions from everyone.
She dropped me the ‘I don’t want a relationship/date’ card last night. I played it very calm and controlled the situation, walking away from it.
Lesson learned:
A) don’t overthink it B ) if she doesn’t seem into you, she’s not into you
I’m at a function this evening with our friends and her, this could be interesting on how she plays this tonight.
UPDATE / Pt2
So we had our function last night, great fun. I mingled in and out of our friendship group completely cool no issues.
She clearly got jealous, anytime I had a shot/smoke with one of our friends she’d appear asking why she wasn’t invited. I did go out of my way to ask several times also.
We move onto a bar where it ends up just a fe of us and she does the same thing, giving me silly shit talk.
Following our discussion last night, we kissed. In private. It was a 50/50 moment.
We get back to wear we live and I ask are we staying at hers, she then responds with a I’m not playing games, your are flirting with my best friend so no I’m not interested.
Completely out of the blue, I’m reassure her she is talking rubbish. Then she goes onto say she’s not ready for anything, in response I clearly state I was never asking for anything.
She gives me a sorry and we part our ways.
What do I think I learnt here?
If she is not interested she will find any excuse to use that. I.e flirting with her friend.
Go with the attitude to just enjoy yourself, It was surprisingly easy to not get caught up on what she was doing/where she was. At the same time when I did see her make it count.
Finally, if you like a girl don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Talk to other people, date other people until such a time where she is woman enough to settle you down.
I’m now recovering potential DTFs cause I cut them off for her. Morally it made me feel better but in reality it did more damage then good.
**Update pt 3***
So I finally got the ‘do you hate me, let’s be friend text, I’m sorry if I upset you by saying I don’t want to sleep with people or have a relationship’
FYI she fucked her ex-bf night before (They broke up cause he cheated on her) the absolute irony.
My response ‘You have given me no reason to hate you’ quote en quote.
Her response ‘don’t be a dick then’
Does she really think I’m going to bow down and be her friend? Do girls honestly believe that? Or is it their way of trying to get away guilt free?
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