How do i get a girlfriend?

Shark4-6 · 2022-08-02T05:00:14+00:00

This is going to sound weird, but bear with me.

Something that I found helpful to think about was truly just focusing on myself and getting better at the things I loved. I often found it incredibly frustrating when I would go to the bar and strike out for the 20th week in a row, so it was hard to try and focus on other stuff, but it really made a huge difference.

I deleted Tinder, kept an eye out for stuff at my school that I was interested in and then did my best to pursue those things. I spent more time hanging out with my friends and starting really having fun at the bar when I went with the boys.

I know its easier said than done, but you just have to have faith that things happen for a reason, and I promise you that if you try less hard at getting a girl, it might actually feel easier.

Just my two cents, but good luck man, its tough out there, but just know that you're fighting the good fight.

Initial-Laugh1442 · 2022-08-02T07:22:38+00:00

Fix your depression first.

GlowinUp8 · 2022-08-02T07:45:25+00:00

I feel like I’m commenting on myself a couple of months ago. If I were you I would stop worrying about everything and just love yourself first. Look inside and at yourself and see what you want to improve. Doesn’t mean you’ll be the perfect person once you do that but you will have the confidence to say my personality is worth interacting with. I used to bash myself constantly because I didn’t think I was as good as others while really it was me thinking that way that pushed me into loneliness. And there is no need to feel bad about it. Circumstances can do things to you, you never thought could happen. And after that forget about the relationships for now. Find people who you can trust and people you gelled well with in the past. Maybe an old friend or someone you got close with and then drifted apart. Text them, hit them up and see if they want to hangout. It’s the summer, people are down for anything as long as they aren’t already doing something. From there start looking at girls in a romantic way. Most girls, unless also lonely (which is rarer than with us, no offense to any woman who is lonely as well Ik it sucks) will not date or let alone seriously interact with a guy with no friends. They have to feel safe (and for good damn reason) and not having serious friends is a no go usually. Don’t let any of this discourage you, I learned this over the past year and I’m in a much better place. I’m not where I need to be but I’m out of the hole I was in mentally and socially. Don’t focus on game imo, most of it based on how attractive you are to her (social importance, looks, money). The only tip I will give you is time and distance. Maximize time and minimize distance and you will connect easier. Spend time with here and be in the rooms she’s in. Not in a creep way tho, you know what I mean. Lastly, I’ll say make friends with women and be very okay with that. Having female friends is by far one of the better things you can have if you want to date. It helps girls feel safer around you (not in a creepy way) and will help you blend into social groups. Women are at the center of most friend groups tbh and it will never hurt being close with one them. Never forget, it can never hurt to have another friend! If you think I’m wrong or want to discuss more about it my dms are open and I’m happy to help!

assposter14 · 2022-08-02T10:02:30+00:00

Get bitches on your dick? EASY! get hot 🙄 jkjk I meen just try to present yourself well don't be an idiot when speaking to women like actually be nice to them instead of being a prick 😂

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-02T16:32:05+00:00

You get a girlfriend by talking with women, connecting with them, hitting on them sexually and escalating things physically.

You need social skills, and sense of humour to lighten the mood, and make the conversation less formal and logical

You need to get emotional reactions from them, such as making them laugh, or getting them to feel sexual tension.

You need to avoid going into interview snide, and instead turn questions into statements, and sharing fun anecdotes, stories, making humorous observations by commenting on what she is doing or what she has told you about herself…

Talk about your lives, hobbies, goals, dreams, past experiences or future ones you wanna have, your future plans, and how you both feel about things.

And you need to flirt, express sexual desire in her, make her feel like a desirable woman, tell her how her smile or her eyes are making you feel, what feeling is it causing in you? How is it affecting you in a sexual way.

Overall, you should read books on this topic. You can read this one for example.

appolonysian · 2022-08-03T05:39:06+00:00

This is gonna be super cliche, but here goes:

go to the gym/exercise; not only for how you’ll end up looking, but what it’ll do for your confidence/mental health. It’s super helpful.
cultivate your own personality; do shit, enjoy what you enjoy, gain skills. It’ll make you and your life more interesting, as well as give you stuff to do before meeting a woman you want to be in a relationship with.

It’s a turn off to get the sense someone’s entire existence/personality revolves around being what they think the you want to see. Make sure you’re doing stuff you’d enjoy even if you did them alone.

Confidence largely stems from knowing you have skills/traits that people (and you) value. The idea is to truly believe that “even if a few people don’t like what you have to offer, others will.”

practice hygiene; seriously, just do it. Not just for women, for everyone.
get out and do stuff/meet people; don’t bank on dating apps. Meeting people in real life is tough, but it’s way better than only dating apps: even when you don’t get a number or a date, you’re learning how to interact with people, which will carry over to your future social experiences.
identify what kind of person you want to be with; different kinds of people tend to congregate at different events/places. Once you know what general kind of person you want to be with, you can refine your search to fit that archetype.
don’t be afraid to ask people out/take a chance.

You’re gonna do alright.

juju_brad · 2022-08-02T05:18:23+00:00

If you've yet to have sex, I would strongly advise against boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Reason being, most women are sexually experienced by the time they hit age 18. A woman can and will use your lack of sexual experience against you and take you to the cleaners.

First see about getting that extrovert "you" back because if there's one thing women dislike, it's a man who isn't confident or is super awkward around them.

If you have acne or blackheads, try Neutrogena face wash or a product that can combat that.

You already have seemingly good height and weight distribution.

You have to start talking to girls, no way around it. Dating apps won't hurt you as long as you have decent pictures.

If you have to lie to get what you want, then lie. High school girls aren't too be taken seriously anyways they're mostly immature and have no clue what they really want, and they stay that way into their mid 20s I promise you.

*Adding more

You can go to places in your surrounding area like grocery stores, malls, movie theaters, etc. and practice talking to people there. This way you aren't corrupting your school dating pool necessarily. At grocery stores you can ask people what they think of a certain product, even if you already know just do it for the sake of conversation. This is where you can fail and the failure will make you better and you'll learn to shrug it off and move on to the next.

devilkingx2 · 2022-08-02T21:40:04+00:00

All you need to do to get a girlfriend is find a girl who likes you enough.

There are two steps:

Step 1: maximize your attractiveness in the short term. Anything you can improve in the next 1-3 months needs to be top priority, then work on 6-12 month improvements. (You can't get a six pack in a month but you can lose 10 pounds and get into better shape than you're in now. You can buy stylish clothes tomorrow.)

Step 2. Talk to 100 girls. You can stop when you get yourself a girlfriend you like, but you should fully mentally prepare yourself for the slim possibility that it will take 100 girls.

100 approaches -> 50 contact infos -> 25 text conversations -> 12 first dates setup -> 6 first dates that happen and go well.

H8beingmale · 2022-08-05T21:38:37+00:00

its a question that will be asked for all eternity

Title	How do i get a girlfriend?
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Date	August 2, 2022 4:37 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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