How do I get over Jealousy at work?

getyourlifeplease · 2019-05-15T20:07:55+00:00

coworker who rejected me twice. New guy comes in and does everything right.

So...being objective here - what did this other guy do to get her? You said he did "everything right"...what was that stuff? Instead of being mad at it all - step back and use this as an time of self reflection. Can you take steps to improve your game? Maybe mirror what this other guy did to try with thr next girl? There is nothing wrong with using real life example of "game" as your guidebook...

And sometimes I just get so angry that I blurt shit out.

This is a little concerning...it is one thing to be hurt, but to be blurting random stuff out - that doesnt help your case man. Take your anger out at the gym - and talk to people there, take a walk or a jog in the park - and talk to people, take it out on a video game. Just not ON other people who technically havent done anything wrong or to you.

DriedUpPlum · 2019-05-15T22:50:43+00:00

Seriously.. don’t shit where you sleep :P.

Think about what you’ll have to lose if you start being a dick about it?

Jealousy is natural but excessive jealousy is a symptom of being insecure and not right in your own house(head).

lozboss · 2019-05-15T20:53:04+00:00

Dude firstly- if you had options you wouldn't be jealous. Go cultivate options and forget her.

You can meet forks anywhere, especially with Tinder etc nowadays ffs. No excuse.

Secondly - don't be angry at the emotional tampon bit, just refuse to be it. No need to be angry. "Sorry, not really interested".

justhereforthecomets · 2019-11-08T15:35:53+00:00

Hey how did it all work out? Searched today because I’m pretty much going through the same situation and found your post.

Attempted to detach myself from the person but she’s changed up her approach with me...casually making an effort to keep my interest by texting randomly/asking what’s bothering me. I know she knows what’s up, but I haven’t got to the point of just being straight up blunt about things (trying to avoid all the bs that comes with that) to make it clear that being friends friends isn’t right for me right now (I don’t want to ice her out completely because we’ve been friends for a while).

Anyways this is all going down while the new guy at work has ALL her attention at work. I’m trying to do it the right way but I agree it’s frustrating AF

TheXXL · 2019-05-15T20:05:37+00:00

But is there anything else I can do to overcome this shit?

Yes, time is the way to get rid of it, in combination with distraction with other girls. Also, why can't you go out and meet other girls? Are you in prison? Don't have legs? Working 24 hours a day? Maybe working on a oilr rig? If you come up with "I don't have money" or "I'm working from 9 to 5, those are just weak excuses. You don't need to pay anything to go outside and talk to women, you can even talk to women after working a 12hour day if you really want to.

I'm 42 and working in IT, naturally having at least 10 hours a day (that's actually very little) and I still manage to talk to women. I usually don't sleep more than 5 to 6 hours a night, sometimes even 3 or 4.

I know it's unhealthy and I can't do this often but I still manage to do it, so can you.

Title	How do I get over Jealousy at work?
Author	okabekudo
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	May 15, 2019 7:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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