How do I learn not to give a shit about what people say? I mean how specifically.

Psychocist · 2014-03-30T15:34:42+00:00

Put yourself in embarrassing situations until you become comfortable making a fool of yourself. That could be public speaking, being loud in public, pestering people to subscribe to a charity on a busy street, busking, purposely making bad jokes and stupid comments (intentional bombing), purposely being obnoxious with close friends (so they don't take you seriously), pretend to trip up in front of strangers so they laugh.

If you can't find embarrassing situations, start to systematically embarrass yourself.

shewhogoesthere · 2014-03-30T15:42:31+00:00

You need to develop inner game. With inner game comes self-love and confidence. When you attain these and a better sense of self-awareness you learn to better keep your own counsel and value your own opinion more than anyone else's.

theBoobMan · 2014-03-31T00:38:47+00:00

I personally would say to purposely explore outside your comfort zones. This is any comfort zone you have. Each time gets easier, each time also grows your confidence. When you're used to being in uncomfortable situations, your confidence will not waiver and words will not bother you.

Besides, you should never give a fuck about what other people think of you. At the end of the day, you don't see most of them. Switch jobs/hobbies/etc and you'll never see some of them again. When you understand this, they will not matter if you do not like them.

Weegoh · 2014-03-31T03:12:58+00:00

To not give a shit about what people say is to not care about what they think of you.

If you're looking for external validation, even subconsciously, then labels and things people say to you or about you will impact you and get you down. The only way to avoid this is to KNOW WITHIN YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE GREAT.

Trust yourself. When you are the one that you receive validation from then nothing anyone can say will get you down about yourself.

This is all inner game and it stems from confidence. Personal introspection will help you a lot. Ask yourself the hard questions and don't be afraid to find out the answer. Introspection is a scary thing.

Good luck.

Thedtrainsays · 2014-03-30T17:07:17+00:00

I developed a sense of arrogance in order to not give a shit bc I felt that I was better than them anyways.....the bad part about that is that I can be an arrogant prick sometimes.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-03-30T18:07:07+00:00

In order to develop inner game and not give a shit about what people say you need to be exposed to success so that you realize that pickup has its ups and downs. Some girls will be into you and some people will just be plain douchey. Once you come to this realization you understand that ultimately you are not at fault if you are being your best self and that some people will just be dickbags or that some girls will just not be into you for whatever reason. In order to get this first initial success you have to go through a pain period of approaching girls until you finally get somewhere and are capable of truly believing that you are enough and you have the skill and ability to pickup chicks, it's just a numbers game at that point.

Dresdain · 2014-03-30T19:59:34+00:00

I've been in the infantry for a bit. You cant even hurt my feelings anymore.

2014-03-30T14:16:35+00:00

This other comment I just made is relevant.

Satan_says_hi · 2014-03-30T15:07:41+00:00

/r/howtonotgiveafuck

Title	How do I learn not to give a shit about what people say? I mean how specifically.
Author	ipsoslapsto
Upvotes	15
Comments	16
Date	March 30, 2014 1:32 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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