How do I overcome Shyness?

BedroomJazz · 2022-04-12T04:51:19+00:00

You have to recognize that the shy butterflies feeling is fear. It could be a fear of judgement or being rejected, a mix of both, or something else. Outgoing people get the same feelings you're getting. The difference is that they face that fear (sometimes lol)

You can still approach people and have fun conversations with people while feeling like "omg omg omg..." on the inside. Just as you wish people would just come up to you first, other people wish for the same. They'll probably be too concerned with how they come across to you to even notice any signs of nervousness

If you don't face your fears and decide to wait for someone else to say hi first, you might die waiting (unless you're just that cute)

offinthewoods10 · 2022-04-12T04:54:16+00:00

Get out of your head. I’ve been there, don’t try to be funny just know that you are and do your thing. I’m sure your family has fun discussions where everyone banters and it’s super easy and fun. That is what you are aiming for in conversation, flirting is taking that energy and shifting it to something more sexual.

Being flirty is not about what you say but how you say it. You could say some dumb stuff and as long as she likes and you are confident in yourself she will make it easy.

Liberaler · 2022-04-12T06:22:58+00:00

What are some practices or thoughts that I should do to overcome this hump?

Don't wait til you are perfect. Life is short. Go for the things you want to have! Embarrassment is quickly over and forgotten, but regretting inactivity will stay. Also, being proactive will eliminate your shyness over time.

kettlebell_workout · 2022-04-12T06:05:45+00:00

U don’t have to flirt nor say the right thing to get laid. U can be polite, shy, nerd and still get laid.

The only thing u have to do is to show an intent.

Ask for a number
Ask for a date
Kiss during the date.
Invite her
Have sex

If she likes u then it will work. If she doesn’t than no matter what u do it won’t work.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-04-12T18:36:04+00:00

Looks like you are in your head which is whats causing you issues. Main thing to do is start practicing things that are a little bold for you. Anything that seems like a social risk. Then realize that it wasn't that bad and you can easily do it again. Then do it again, until you get comfortable with it. Step up with something a little more bold.

Thing is you already know what to say, your just being filtered. You are worried what you say may be weird, or wrong, or something else.

Once you take a few social risks, realize its not a big deal, practice that enough times, your beliefs will change. You can call this confidence. You no longer will be worried about finding something to say, because you won't believe anything will go wrong. But, you need to take those risks and realize it's not anything to worry about. You have to learn from experience.

Title	How do I overcome Shyness?
Author	Overcast_of_Finesse
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	April 12, 2022 3:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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