How do I stop appearing so clingy?

loafman69 · 2017-09-21T02:25:11+00:00

Having a lot to say is in a completely different realm than appearing desperate. It is probably a huge benefit to talk a lot. What matters is where it comes from. Think about it this way: You are talking in a way to try to get something from her (pussy). If you are trying to get with her IN HER HEAD THAT MEANS YOU DON'T HAVE OTHER OPTIONS. Try talking to her in a way that you aren't coming off as needy. Women hate neediness because it shows that you don't have other options. If you don't have other options (IN HER HEAD) this means you don't have the resources available to care for a child (regardless if it is her child or not, just in general). So the solution would be as talking to her like you do have options such as disqualifying her. IE: she can't have you for X reason. This will make her chase because IF YOU ARE ABLE TO disqualify her then in her head you have options with other women meaning you have the resources to care for other children including hers.

PDX_Relationshipnerd · 2017-09-21T07:41:37+00:00

Here are a few simple things to remember the next time you're talking to someone you like:

You have 2 ears and one mouth. You should be actively listening twice as much as you are speaking. Ask her questions and listen. Don't interrupt, and don't rush to share your own anecdotes. Give the conversation time. Awkward silences happen and they can be necessary evils to conversation.
If you're texting someone you are interested in, then only use texting to set up times to meet. Don't fall into long text conversations. Some light conversation is good, but don't get too deep. Again, texting is primarily for setting up times to meet, not over share like you seem to do.
If you're at a party, or social event and you strike up a conversation with someone you're into, give the conversation no more than 5 minutes. Then exit no matter what. Tell them you're going to say hi, or talk to someone you know. If you stick around and just talk to them, they assume you don't know many people, aren't very social, or are just trying to hit on them. All of these things destroy your value. Instead move around, talk to people, introduce yourself to many, and be friendly. This of course takes practice, but it can be a valuable tool to have at your disposal. The point of this is: If you're talking to everyone at the party, can you be labeled as 'clingy'?

Austonmatthews345 · 2017-09-22T04:03:57+00:00

I don't like the replies Itt. Reading too much into female psychology sounds like a bad thing. Just dress well, lift, smile, and talk to people the best you can and you will see some success.

Title	How do I stop appearing so clingy?
Author	jewfro667
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	September 21, 2017 1:59 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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