How do I switch from logic driven conversations to flirty and funny..

vardarac · 2022-06-07T15:28:20+00:00

So just stop talking about logic.

Obviously easier said than done. Most guys default to droning on about work and school and other boring shit because that’s where they’re most comfortable. Be disciplined. If she asks what you do, keep it to a few short lines and then change the subject to something fun, like that one time you jumped into the back of a pickup truck in Mexico to get tacos with strangers at 4 in the morning.

Ideally, stop talking altogether and take action. See how quickly you can go from meeting a girl to being balls deep. My record (excluding dating apps) is under an hour.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-06-07T16:51:32+00:00

It's all inner game. It may sound deep, but its the main thing that is at play.

What you want to do is crush your ego around conversations. Basically, you want to talk to lots and lots of people, pushing your comfort zone, with the main purpose to prove to yourself that nothing conversationally is really a big deal. So, rejections, awkward silences, running out of things to say, using humor, using high energy emotion, saying random things as they pop into your head, everything. None of it is dangerous, and you can recover from anything. Once you can prove that to yourself, then you can free flow. Detach the emotion from it.

Use self amusement to avoid any anxiety you may have. Learn to laugh at yourself and let things go. Its just conversations after all.

You also want to learn to read body language, because if you ever make anyone uncomfortable, learn how to back off. Basically, learn to recover from it.

example: "Sorry, sometimes I can come across a little over the top, but I like being real with people I meet." New topic, continue...

If you work on yourself like this, you may find challenges where you seek out awkward moments just to practice. Again, you want to get comfortable with it. Its just conversations. As long as your having fun, and others are too, then there is no downside.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-06-07T16:42:05+00:00

I used to suck at it at first but I got better at it. here's how:

if you want her to feel a certain way. you have to feel it first. Like you're going to talk to her and look at her like you're already wanna fuck her. that's my casual vibe but I take some steps back so you're just calm, relaxed, confident, nonreactive, and cocky probably. if you got the feeling right the right words usually come with it but another exercise that you can do. You probably know other girls who arent attractive but you have to spend time together like schoolmates or whatever. Talk to them and tryna tease and flirt in a playful way or just be more playful and challenge them. you aren't gonna care how they respond, are they gonna attracted to you or not and you don't feel like it is something that you have to do. If someone is attractive you have to trigger emotions with teasing, flirting etc but as long as you do it for fun, just to enjoy yourself, you gonna get better at it and girls gonna probably like you more

vardarac · 2022-06-08T10:58:10+00:00

Instead of trying to acquire “that” skill to impress women, invest in yourself. Find something that really interests you, something you can truly enjoy.

Women will appreciate you more, if you are actually good at something other than “banter”.

Forget the “game” and “pick up artists” nonsense. If your goal is to bang random hot chicks, I have some bad news for you. It is all about looks and money, and a little bit of luck. You will find some “Quasimodo” example as an exception. That’s what it is: Exception.

Read, swim, hike, paint, cook… Do something that will turn you into a better version of yourself. Trying to learn “how to kill it with ladies” is a total waste of time. Plus, you should value yourself more than some random shallow bimbo. They will come and go, but you will be living under that skin.

As a last remark: Lift 3-4 times a week, eat and sleep right, practice good personal hygiene. Get those teeth pearl white. Make sure you like what you see in the mirror, guarantee you women will too. But you don’t do it for women, you do it because you love and respect yourself.

MistyMaisel · 2022-06-07T17:07:51+00:00

So I notice this post is all about how you perceive yourself. Flirting and attracting others is all about how they perceive you. The idea is to give them a good and fun time (and vice versa). Women can drone on about their logic, life, and such just as well as men. The difference is we realize this isn't fun for others. So either you have to make that fun for others or stop this conversational masturbation. You're using the ears and attention of others for your own ego basically. I've met guys like this, I always wonder why I'm there if they don't give a fig about me enjoying them or our time together. It feels like they really just want a slightly more sentient blow up doll. Start caring that they're having fun and a good time and stop acting like how you converse is a good thing because it includes the words logic in it.

MrBlack__ · 2022-06-07T18:33:55+00:00

Just make assumptions n make them flirty

Her - I had such a long day at work You - Driving all the guys crazy right

Personally I’d avoid flirting but if that’s what you wanna do then go for it

peduxe · 2022-06-08T00:46:39+00:00

there's nothing wrong with going deep instead of going wide.

you will gain much more from being flirtatious in a timely manner.

you most likely ain't going to bag her if you're flirting 24/7, push and pull is important.

Accomplished-Camp339 · 2022-06-08T06:46:45+00:00

Just say anything funny and don’t think of being judged. Become comfortable with making mistakes and slowly you will learn how to recover from an awkward situation and use it in your favor by making it flirty. No one is perfect and so is the other person. Stop thinking of how others would think of you, instead think in a perspective that you are a fun person and if you would like the other person’s (girl’s) company. Say whatever funny and flirty comes to your mind. It is all about how smoothly you convert your small conversations into deep conversations while flirting and bantering in between.

Title	How do I switch from logic driven conversations to flirty and funny..
Author	softoy
Upvotes	17
Comments	17
Date	June 7, 2022 2:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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