How do I turn this around?

No-Lobster-4646 · 2025-02-17T16:47:52+00:00

If you haven’t changed anything about you since the last time, then don’t ask her out. Because if you haven’t changed anything, then you’re still the same person she said no to last time. Now go improve things about you. The way you dress, the way you communicate, the way you present yourself.

YinMaestro · 2025-02-17T16:51:46+00:00

I suggest you take that confidence elsewhere. Once a girl rejects you that means she doesn't ever really see you as a potential partner. Even if she were to say yes the initial rejection(unless for some other weird reason like no money or family stuff) will still hold you back and you will never seen as first option.

If you are feeling confident, take it elsewhere and go ask someone else out. Trust me, been there done that too many times.

Had a girl freshmen year in college I absolutely crushed on. She said I was cute, we made out and did some stuff, but nothing all the way. I asked her out and she said no unless I was okay being second choice. I proceeded to stay friends with her. We went on alot of "dates" I asked her out for valentines, she agreed and then stood me up. I got too drunk that night and ended up getting arrested for minor intoxication. Fast forward each year of college, even when I got hotter, became fit, became a social animal(throwing biggest parties on campus), fucking girls way hotter than her, she still never gave me the time of day outside of friends. Even made dinner for me and other shit but as "friends."

Bottomline, it's not worth the uphill battle unless you think she's your wife.

BoysenberryWooden516 · 2025-02-17T17:28:04+00:00

You have a classic case of oneitis. We’ve all been there. In short, here’s what you do —-MOVE ON. There’s no such thing as “the one”. Your brain is telling you that there is something special about this girl that you just can’t live without. Know that this is a self-created fabrication, which is just not true. There are BILLIONS of women on planet earth. Find one who’s into you. Having to ‘convince’ a woman to like you never works out longterm. Don’t overthink this. Don’t waste any more time. Just move on.

DaygameCode · 2025-02-18T00:12:01+00:00

When a woman tells you no, just move on. Not sure why you think a girl telling you no is something to ignore. You don’t try again when she tells you no. You walk away with dignity unless you want her to be more harsh next time.

tonyferguson2021 · 2025-02-17T20:03:03+00:00

no person has ever been rejected. She only rejected your previous offer in that situation in that moment, not you as a human being with a beating heart.

Did someone offer you a cup of tea once and you said no? Does that mean you will never drink a cup of tea again? Tea is for mugs, don’t be like the tea guy.

Naash17 · 2025-02-17T19:17:18+00:00

For men, there is no such thing as the "one" cause generally, the majority of women are beautiful. So unless she's built like eva addams, just look for someone else

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2025-02-17T19:53:02+00:00

You taking up courage is not enough to turn around anything. She already rejected you and will do it again. Move on and meet other women who value you.

DependentAd1504 · 2025-02-18T12:42:09+00:00

There's a much better chance she'll be attracted to you if you approach or go on dates with other girls. Also workout crazy because looks matters most.

Title	How do I turn this around?
Author	agootson
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	February 17, 2025 4:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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