How do you enrich in deep conversations with the ladies such as about her dreams, passions, family, etc. without it seeming forced or random or without putting her on the pedestal?

battleborncold · 2014-05-14T06:06:26+00:00

Grounding and transition, it's that simple. It's how you carry conversations in any direction you want.

Grounding is really just the simple task of saying something that breaks that topic of conversation naturally. Let's go from the start of an approach to talking about her family dynamics:

You: You look like you're having a crazy time, what's the occasion?

Her: It's my friends' bachelorette party, we're having a blast!

You: Ah yeah, my sister had crazy stories when she got married last summer. You come from a big family too?

Her: Not really. I've got an older brother, that's about it.

You: Ah, I bet you got teased all the time, that's all big brothers ever do!

By now the conversation should be in full swing.

It's not really so much that the conversation has to be extremely logical for them to open up so much as that it has to feel natural. That's a lot more of confidence and being at ease than it has to do with making sure that you didn't just come from out of the blue on some topic. Ground and transition into wherever you want to go. So let's say you want to break the sex topic (which is always ideal, without being creepy about it)

You: So... bachelorette party. Tell me you girls didn't drag some male stripper out here with you. Those guys creep me out a little.

And it's a great thing to transition and hit an array of topics and connect with them on multiple things (connect, not say "me too" on everything).

As far as the why would you give a fuck thing, if anyone was to ever even ask (which I doubt), say that kind of thing is important to you (family is fucking important, friends come and go). If you need more advice than this, I did write an article on this subreddit a while back about How To Have Deep & Meaningful Conversations, and you can always ask me a ? straight up.

2014-05-14T04:55:15+00:00

From my experience, those are NOT the things you ask. Its the things that naturally come out of her. Women naturally will go for the relationship, they will slowly share themselves to you. You can too, don't be needy, just be patient.

Oh and its best to do this in person. Texting is just letters on a screen, there is no real connection there.

2014-05-14T13:07:46+00:00

You don't want it seem forced/random and you don't want to put her on a pedestal?

Simple.

Don't make it forced/random and don't put her on a pedestal.

After all, why should I give a fuck about her family or whatever. But I know to get to know someone, those are the type of random questions you gotta ask.

Oh.

crbiker · 2014-05-15T02:31:24+00:00

You sound like an asshole.

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-14T06:19:02+00:00

I want to show a girl I have interest in her over text and I want to get to know her on a deeper level.

First of all, why are you doing this over text? Invite her on a date. If she says no, she's not interested. If she's too far away, move on.

Secondly, you can't have deep conversations over text. Sorry, but that's just stupid.

I can't just randomly ask her if she has any siblings, or how her relationship with her parents are, etc. without it seeming I'm putting her on the pedestal.

Caring about a person's life isn't putting them on a pedestal. Putting somebody on a pedestal is giving them unearned attention/praise/etc... Saying "what do you do" isn't putting them on a pedestal.

But I know to get to know someone, those are the type of random questions you gotta ask.

Don't ask random questions. Find out what she cares about and then ask her about that shit.

drifting_ · 2014-05-14T17:34:43+00:00

Ask her on a date asap and just let the conversation flow. It's too hard to build attraction through text and comes off as unconfident and needy because you're keeping the relationship limited.

whatdoy0uknow · 2014-05-14T10:44:30+00:00

step number 1: stop gaming over text

Title	How do you enrich in deep conversations with the ladies such as about her dreams, passions, family, etc. without it seeming forced or random or without putting her on the pedestal?
Author	Vigturnal
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Date	May 14, 2014 3:55 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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