How do you escalate?

Ok_Pension_2064 · 2021-02-13T04:30:43+00:00

Try to be touchy on dates, not in awkward way yk when talking or doing something interactive that puts you in a position where you can out your hand on her, bump into her etc
Ask emotionally stimulating questions and sexual questions on the date, that comes with having open body language and being able to start these conversations with it being appropriate.
Then comes the game spitting
You shouldn’t be doing most of the talking, she should talk about her interests and she’ll talk for a long time, it’s all about making her comfortable and everything will line up.
You gotta stimulate her in the head and physically escalate

caesarfecit · 2021-02-13T18:59:53+00:00

Here's the secret.

When she's not in her feminine energy, i.e. Not feeling like a desirable and sexy woman who wants a connection with you, attempting to sexually escalate on her will feel like a challenge and a threat and bring out her masculine energy.

But when she is in her feminine energy around you (i.e. compliant, submissive and giving off the classic IOIs), you sexually escalating on her feels validating and gratifying to her, and makes her thirsty for more.

When a girl is sufficiently in her feminine energy, you have all the leeway in the world. You could grab her by the pussy and she'll moan in delight and pull you in for a makeout sesh.

But when she isn't in her feminine energy, even the slightest expression of sexuality directed at her could offend her and make her feel threatened.

Gee that sounds an awful lot like Rules 1 and 2.

One important thing to remember is that every girl is different. Some start out in their feminine energy around you (because they're already receptive and attracted to you). Some are not interested and never will be (for instance if she's married and doesn't want to cheat, making her attraction to you a moot point at best). And some are neutral and need to be polarized into attraction before they're ready to accept your advances.

Read the situation and don't think a girl is comfortable with you feeling her up just because she smiled at you. A good rule for touch is start from the outside of her body and work your way in. If she's not comfortable with you touching her on the arm, she's definitely not ready for you to kiss her.

kujasgoldmine · 2021-02-13T11:17:51+00:00

Touching has been enough for me always. Like caressing her leg gently while watching a movie. If she seems like she's into it, hand could start to roam a bit more, and more sexually. At least mine goes around her back usually soon after that. "Neck breathing" seems to turn most on, and neck kisses can follow soon after, from where it's easy to escalate things.

hagion · 2021-02-13T14:11:18+00:00

Last time I said: “I like it when people are straight to the point” And he took me to his bedroom

edit: I was actually meaning something else with the sentence but ok

DJGammaRabbit · 2021-02-14T02:24:08+00:00

The entire time you’re escalating.

letsgetrandy · 2021-02-13T18:59:50+00:00

and get me2’d

To a certain degree, we just need to let this cultural phenomenon pass. Trump is gone and this part of things will fade...

Women have deserved representation for a long time and it has come out in a burst like that echo in the mountains that causes an avalanche of snow to crush down. Let the dust settle and then let's reevaluate things. Don't make #metoo a permanent thing because that misses the point. If it were permanent, it would have been a wasted effort.

HoMcShmoe · 2021-02-13T14:42:09+00:00

Tickle her. Did that with every girl I ever dated and it's always a nice and playful way to get intimate and playfight.

If she says something cocky you might say: "Watch out girl, I know your weak spots" and then go for it

Its_Destiny007 · 2021-02-13T19:56:04+00:00

You always put your hands on your womans ass whether its your first date or your 50th date. Woman are sexual creatures and they love when a man teases them by touching them especially the ass.

LegsAkimbo85 · 2021-02-13T08:07:03+00:00

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quirkypinkllama · 2021-02-13T14:09:35+00:00

Add in short and cute touches like a hug when you first meet, touch her arm gently when you make a point or say something funny, play footsie a little, wink at her, when it's time to decide on a dessert ask her if you can sit next to her to look over the menu together and get a little closer but not too much. Can put your hand on her knee as you're talking there or scratch her back a little, I personally love head scratches once I'm comfortable with a person.

McClariton · 2021-02-14T06:13:16+00:00

Girls make it easy for you . If they want it escalated you’ll know it . Sometimes you have to take a chance too

Title	How do you escalate?
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Date	February 13, 2021 4:07 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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