I know that text game isn’t something that’s as important as in person but I can’t ever seem to get women hooked into texting me. Basically, it always comes down to me texting them first, which is fine at first but after a few dates with them, I kinda still notice it being me initiating and I don’t want that. I just don’t understand how some guys seem to always have women following up with them first as opposed to vice versa because I’ve never been the guy who gets tons of invites to things and I also don’t like planning things too much and it’s tiring having it translate to my dating life as well. I want a more even balance and I’m not sure what I do to give off the vibe of “planner”.

Anyway, I just want to know how to get women to get more invested in talking to me than vice versa. Because I feel like if I don’t make any effort to talk to people, I don’t hear from anyone aside from my parents.