How do you guys prepare for a night out?

NotFeelingMyself · 2012-07-15T19:23:33+00:00

I've thought of doing a post about this topic several times. Most other comments here are about personal grooming and psychological warm-ups -- which are crucial of course. I'm not here to talk about clothes, aftershave, or emergency material.

But I'd like to remind you that your living space is an important part of the attraction ritual. Sure, some guys will say 'once you have her at home, she's already sold,' but I think there are a few important preparations that will make your transitions easier, put your mind in a good place, and help with repeat business.

First, general cleanliness. This is different to tidiness, which just means straightening things up. Women (are scientifically proven to) have a superior sense of smell. Make sure that your environment is pleasing to the nose and the eye equally. Pay particular attention to the bathroom and the kitchen, source of most unpleasant odours that we, as men, often learn to ignore. The bathroom is worth doing professionally. Imagine you're doing a hotel job. Clear up all the messy lotions, empty shampoo bottles and other crap, even if you just put them into a tub under a bench or something. Plenty of toilet paper (ladies go through that stuff like rice at a wedding) and clean towels. Don't be afraid to leave some handy female stuff like moisturiser and make-up removal wet wipes around. Also, sit on the bowl and carefully survey the view directly in front of you -- this is exactly what she will be looking at. It's a good opportunity to leave certain books on a shelf or a picture on the wall, etc (sidenote: this should be congruous with your personality, not a manipulative prop. For example, I leave a copy of the book 1001 Places To See Before You Die, which has it's own backstory for me).

Second, tidiness. Yes, this means picking things up and straightening everything. It's surprisingly quick and easy to do. I usually start at the door to the living room and work clockwise on everything within the visible eyeline of an entering guest. (How often have you seen pics of redditors rooms posted here showing off their cat/hat/lego, but all around it you see dustbunnies, takeout cartons, a spaghetti of ugly computer cables, etc) It's amazing how much a couple of minutes work can transform the look of a messy room, especially in conjunction with

Third, subtle lighting. I have some soft lighting set on a timer for about the time the clubs close. TBH the effect is stunning and gives the room a lot more credit than it deserves. It's better that she arrives to a nicely lit living area than if you switch on some flickering energy saving bulbs as you get in the door -- the effect is cheap.

Fourth, refreshments. If you haven't watched Mr Chi-City's take on this, stop reading this right now -- it's entertaining and educational. The tl;dr for you lazy types, is that you should always keep your refrigerator stocked with the stuff ladies like.

Fifth, rookie mistakes. ALWAYS have condoms available to hand (I have them in a couple of places!). If she's on the fence about coming back home with you, claim you have to get up early and she can only have one drink and then you'll have to throw her out (of course, this will never be mentioned again). Lean her against the wall and kiss her as you enter the hallway of your building, and then continue as normal -- this removes the nervous tension (and all doubt about what's going to happen). By all means, have a genuine conversation for a while, but don't wait too long before moving in -- I would say 15-20 mins tops.

Bonus pro-tip: Keep some emergency sex toys (if you are into that) in a drawer but still in their original packaging -- that makes things much less awkward.

Optional: keep a bowl of 'left property' near the hallway (inc. bracelets, hair ties, etc) -- just say some friends are always leaving things over. This is surprisingly good at showing how comfortable you are with women (friends or otherwise) and adds a hint of pre-selection to the mix.

Finally, don't be bummed if you come home alone (again)! You are cool enough to enjoy your own company and your place is looking sweet too. Sit down, crack a beer, make a collage in your dream journal (what I actually mean is write up what you learned this evening and what you plan to do about it -- there is no failure, only feedback).

tl;dr: you're a lazy bastard.

cutchyacockov · 2012-07-15T16:45:58+00:00

If I really want to go out and light up the town, I start two hours ahead of time, and this is what I do:

Go for a quick 20min run or workout, listening to whatever gets you pumped
Continue listening to said music as I get back and shower, shave, etc..
Sing in the shower and dance while drying off
Eat something real light, like some vegies, chicken, and cranberry juice
Pick out what you want to wear, something nice that sets off how you feel for the night
Make sure I always have gum, wallet, cell phone, keys, and whatever props you care to have for the night (props can include anything from sunglasses, to a small notepad and pen, to a light up ice cube for you drink, all with the intention to make you stand out)
Have 2-3 beers, spritz up with some good scents, and out the door I go

By this point I am pumped, confident, and ready to go. Works every time.

p_baytman · 2012-07-15T19:06:46+00:00

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vonlenskaa · 2012-07-15T18:26:27+00:00

I try not to do much prep work before going out, to me it just makes me feel like I'm trying to hard. Maybe I'll throw a nicer shirt on and put some cologne on, but as far as having a ritual, or exercising right before, I don't do that as that makes my brain think that social interaction is something that I need to "prepare" for, as opposed to something that I can naturally do at anytime.

2012-07-15T17:40:06+00:00

Just had a straight shave (and full man-pampering) at a barber in Vegas. If your look is either clean shaven or defined facial hair, get one of these bad boys before you go out...I feel in state as fuck right now. Just don't cut it too close (no pun intended) or you'll smell like roses, as mine was wrapped up with hydrating rose water.

ehlu15 · 2012-07-15T20:49:02+00:00

I'm in college, usually roll out to the frat houses around midnight.

Gym in the afternoon/early evening. Eat dinner around 6 or 7 (either dining hall or Chick-fil-A), watch some hockey/college football, shower around 10, get dressed after.

I hate beer, and that's all they usually have at the houses, so I pregame with a Four Loko or do a few shots with friends. Have my hour-long playlist in the background. That has some Wiz Khalifa, Con Bro Chill, Meek Mill, and some other rap and EDM. Once that's done, make sure the place is clean in case I bring a girl back, and head out

queenswake · 2012-07-19T01:49:17+00:00

Several mile run, hard session of pushups. You're face will be flush and you'll have a certain glow. You'll also feel great, strong, and confident. But do it far enough in advance that you aren't still sweating from it when you get to the place. Have a beer or a shot before heading out the door.

Soul_Baby · 2012-07-15T17:58:02+00:00

• I workout that day • Go tanning • Do my laundry and iron my clothes (GTL basically) • Shower at 10 • Shave, trim, and groom myself • Put on my jeans • Clean my shoes • Apply cologne and deodorant • Put on my shirt as we are walking out the door so it feels fresh as can be

That's what I do. Looking good makes you feel good, which in turn, help your confidence.

timosaurusrex · 2012-07-16T00:10:39+00:00

First- Fap Second- Fap Third- Usually after two fap sessions you'll need a nap. fourth- Here you have some options. After your nap, you can either fap again...or start partying!

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-07-15T15:05:26+00:00

I wish I had the girl with the bouncy hair
We'd ride off in a brand new car
or fly a plane somewhere
like probably Jamaica

I brush my teeth, shampoo my hair, and shave my face
Apply the necessary aerosol
in the appropriate place
And we'll spend the night together watching television

I can't turn off my television
Don't really know why television
I understand my television

tojohahn · 2012-07-15T16:04:04+00:00

The spelling and grammar errors are destroying my brain.

Title	How do you guys prepare for a night out?
Author	SpinMyRiki
Upvotes	43
Comments	37
Date	July 15, 2012 2:43 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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