How do you prevent girls from ghosting you?

Blurry-Nights · 2020-01-12T05:54:00+00:00

Hey there. I understand your frustration. Please bear with me, I'm going to address your question by explaining some dynamics.

Having done a ton of both Tinder game and cold approach game, cold approach game wins by a mile, and I'll tell you why.

Any chump can message a girl on Tinder. It takes 0 confidence, and she has all the power. It makes you look like you have no options, and even when I get women into relationships this way, that power dynamic sticks. They have so many men on there that you just aren't special.

When you confidently approach a woman in public, you're doing something 99% of men wouldn't have the balls to do. She sees you as a man who has an abundance of options, because you can just approach them whenever you want to. Relationships I start this way, I control the adventure from the very beginning and women love that. She feels special, because she knows how many other options I have, but I chose HER.

Good luck out there, I genuinely advise that everyone delete Tinder and go approach women in public.

13ananaMan · 2020-01-12T05:32:24+00:00

I think the initial connection just isn't there. Remember, you want a girl to be excited to see you. If she's excited, she won't cancel

getyourlifeplease · 2020-01-12T12:13:51+00:00

As a girl...I will be as transparent as possible as to WHY we (girls) sometimes will ghost a guy:

There is a lack of interest OR the level of interest changes - we will talk to a guy and over the phone (aka on "paper") he sounds awesome. His pics are cute, we have a good rapport online...yet as time goes on, he says something off, or he contacts us WAY too much and it freaks us out because we can tell he is way too anxious. So we ghost.
There wasnt really an agreed upon "date". The guy randomly says we should get together next weekend...we say "yeah cool" or "maybe". Nothing DEFINITE is ever planned so we dont take it seriously and we move on. The guy misreads the situation and assumes there were plans, and he calls and texts about the weekend and the girl has NO clue what he is talking about. So she ghosts.
The guy takes us on a date and after meeting him in person we realize he isnt what we want, he isnt as cute as his pics, he has no personality in person, he is boring, he talks way too much, he gives us a creeper or uncomfortable vibe, so we ghost. We dont want to see him again, and because some girls dont like confrontation, they will walk away without contact.
The guy doesnt "get it" because he doesnt or cant pick up on social cues. There is a diff in just being nice to him, and sexual flirting. When the guy misreads the situation, and he keeps pushing...pushing for a date, pushing to meetup, pushing for 'a chance' - even after she has already said NO several times - a girl will ghost.

So if you are doing any of those things...that could be a reason why the girls ghost you. Not saying it is wrong or right, just saying 100% of the time someone ghosts - it is due to lack of interest. And you cant prevent what others do, but you cant lessen the chances by being self aware, paying attention to social cues they send you, be assertive in your process, and learn to walk away when someone shows you they arent interested.

UrFrdlyNghbrhdSnek · 2020-01-13T07:44:49+00:00

If their ghosting behaviour bothers you, then be glad that you know this now, and upfront. She wasn't interested anyway, so it's a telltale sign that even if you do indeed go on a date, she'll be disinterested. Rule #1 of online dating, people can lie and people can ghost, so you have to lower your expectations. Finding a great person or potential partner is like finding a needle in a haystack. Rule #2, as much as what they do is shitty, you aren't entitled to a date. Ever. Even if you talk for days. Some people carry out conversations out of politeness...but if there is no chemistry, you're not entitled to an explanation if they ghost, neither are you entitled to a date. People really are busy with their lives, you want to go out with ones who will make time for you.

john18809 · 2020-01-13T11:05:32+00:00

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psyduckdoc · 2020-01-13T21:32:26+00:00

You can't prevent that. You can only accept the fact that some people are just not that into you but are a bit rude to tell you that in the first place.

desperateseagull · 2020-01-30T17:31:20+00:00

Question: What do you do leading up to the date?

Title	How do you prevent girls from ghosting you?
Author	john18809
Upvotes	0
Comments	35
Date	January 12, 2020 5:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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