How do you react when another guy steals the focus of a girl away from you?

throwdontgo31 · 2021-03-22T05:26:15+00:00

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bandsupjay · 2021-03-21T20:54:38+00:00

Do nothing. Don’t get jealous. Just don’t tolerate any flirting in your face

astahl517 · 2021-03-21T20:03:54+00:00

Make a move and set up plans, if she wishy washy just give yourself some self respect and on to the next one. They always comeback around, if she’s worth it and honestly has a legitimate reason give a a chance but don’t allow yourself to be played the fool.

Gimmeabeerandamop · 2021-03-22T19:26:48+00:00

Omg you watch their interaction guys!

And if he’s doing well (which will be rare) you take mental notes

And when he’s doing poorly you become the cheerleader for the interlocutor: “maintain eye contact, stop looking at the floor my guy!” or when he mentions his posh job/car/salary you say “that’ll impress her!” And “try reading her palm, that’s the smooth way to initiate kino!”

ironmanalex97 · 2021-03-22T05:13:46+00:00

A lot of people here are saying you need to look good and be in shape. Tbh that’s only surface level. I’ll tell you I’ve never gotten to get a girl to be interested in me over other guys just based on looks. (I’m not ugly but definitely not the most attractive) tbh girls will care if you’re more put together and come off as well rounded. Style and aesthetic are important to get attention but wit and charm is what keeps and maintains it. Even if this guy just has a greater comedic ability doesn’t mean that he will choose to maintain it, and even though he’s funny you could be seen as someone with more substance. If you look at people who are generally considered higher status in social situations they aren’t always the ones talking or being the most entertaining all the time, often they let everyone share and might chime in here and there. So if she gives her attention to another guy I wouldn’t be so upset. If anything you could walk away and she might try to find you later or try to get the guys attention and join in there conversation. If he’s trying to shoot his shot I wouldn’t bother cock blocking him, cause that might ruin his chances but it will more likely ruin yours, if he’s trying to just talk to someone it’s another thing, I’d say in the latter just have fun and maybe get to know the guy, you might actually become friends with him.

TLDR looks aren’t everything. Either walk away or just talk to the guy rather than compete to get the girls attention.

throwdontgo31 · 2021-03-21T23:42:12+00:00

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2021-03-21T20:00:26+00:00

It depends on the situation. Who is the guy? Who is the girl? Where are you? What are you doing? This is not a very good question

ankitispunk · 2021-03-22T12:19:39+00:00

I know i sound rude, but i'll beat the fuck out of that guy.

Thi3fs · 2021-03-22T19:48:58+00:00

First time poster. This has happened to me way too many times. And unfortunately I have also done this quite a bunch of times myself. Unfortunately it has nothing to do with me or my looks (I’m a pretty average looking dude, 5’7 with an average build). When have I had a girls attention stolen from me? It happens mostly when I am trying to make a deep conversation in a bar that’s not leading or building that air of tension between us, however on a very very rare occasion it has nothing to do with my conversation or how spatially aware I am. Sometimes someone else with a lot more charisma or social standing (bartenders unfortunately can scoop up anyone without even trying) can interrupt you. And it fucking hurts when it happens to oneself. Because you keep wondering what else can you have done. And when have I been able to do it? Completely unintentionally, (I have a personal code to not try and interrupt if someone is trying to talk to a girl like that) but when I’m at a bar with a huge bunch of people and feeling my groove, I get into a mode of wanting to make everyone around me just know each other and introduce everyone to everyone else, that’s when girls and people in general get that spark in their eye and gravitate towards me.

Long story short; keep your sentences short, don’t try and wax philosophy or have deep conversations with people who are not your true and genuine friends, keep jumping topics. I also need to refresh on my knowledge and find more like minded people to discuss this with because 2020 was hard on us all and I’ve been going through a very very dry spell lol

Economy-Cockroach989 · 2021-03-22T21:11:56+00:00

Number 2. If she actually was into me I wouldn't know anyway since I have no gauge for indications of interest vs. simple pleasantries. Also I'm not into competing for attention at all, so my dating situation is going nowhere fast lol

Title	How do you react when another guy steals the focus of a girl away from you?
Author	throwdontgo31
Upvotes	10
Comments	14
Date	March 21, 2021 7:58 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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