How do you stop valuing looks too much?

immatonton · 2022-06-19T06:53:30+00:00

Well, you need to be confident in yourself, first of all. You have to believe that you’re a man of value. If you can’t get there through self-reflection alone, then you first need to make efforts towards self-improvement.

Lifting weights, improving your fashion, learning a new skill, furthering your education, starting a side hustle, or another meaningful pastime. Things that add value to yourself or your life.

I tell myself that I deserve the women I want, because I’m a worthwhile partner. I didn’t use to love myself, but I do now. I’ve since put a lot of work into my health, my career, and put effort into making myself a more active and sociable person.

Looks aren’t everything. They’ll always be important, but they’re not everything, and with women especially, I think you’ll find that there are plenty of traits that you shouldn’t value equally as much as her physical features.

The more experience you get in life, the more you’ll realize how little positive impact caring about what others think has on your life… versus how much positive/negative impact what you think has on your life.

For example, if you think you’re a loser, other people might start to think you’re a loser too. If you think you don’t deserve a girl, she might start to think that too! “You have to love yourself before others will.” Don’t care about what they think, care about what you think.

Also, another pro-tip, women like men that aren’t afraid to lead and go after what they want. If a girl’s not into you, she’s not into you, but if there’s any chance, they want you to approach like you know you deserve them.

I think that the more girls you talk to, the more you realize how easy it is (if you play the numbers game and are realistic about your standards), and that the hard part of life is finding meaning beyond chasing money, clothes, cars, and girls.

So long as you’re of average attractiveness, clean, in well-fitting clothes, and with a bit of game/personality/self-confidence, then there will always be women. Oh, and have a job too!

“Pretty” girls don’t scare me, because I’m a man who dates women he finds attractive. I didn’t use to tho. I used to be a loser. Why? Largely because I thought of myself as one… and because I didn’t chase purpose.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-06-19T05:06:57+00:00

Hang around lots of attractive women, and you’ll stop caring as much.

Travis_Varga · 2022-06-19T04:34:00+00:00

There’s a way. Pursuing the values you think are best for your life and happiness. Value yourself for doing so. As part of living and achieving happiness, pursue romance/sex with a woman who shares your highest values. Looks won’t be so important in comparison to your highest values.

may-begin-now · 2022-06-19T05:14:54+00:00

The shallow hal needs a gal script....lol

JrrrrrrrTheSecond · 2022-06-19T16:24:10+00:00

Just picture them taking a huge shit. That will fix it.

Title	How do you stop valuing looks too much?
Author	historyinthe
Upvotes	3
Comments	10
Date	June 19, 2022 4:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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