How long does it usually take to build attraction?

AndroWanda · 2014-09-29T01:23:34+00:00

Dont try to "build attraction" with a woman that isnt interested in you. A girl can be playing coy/hard to get, but even with that there's an air of playfulness about it. If you feel like you're investing all this time/emotional output for a girl who isnt even giving you the time of day move on.

joshsway · 2014-09-29T00:30:14+00:00

It's always different, but in general, you will know relatively early on (like the first interaction)

ZiRALiX · 2014-09-29T08:08:32+00:00

Seriously though, no time at all. It's very quick.

Also I don't really think it makes sense to frame it as giving up or quitting because there is a much bigger picture to look at. Like you can forfeit a match of chess and it's not like you're giving up chess entirely or losing anything, really... even if it was a match you really wanted to win. This might come off as an arcane semantics point though.

Gibian · 2014-09-29T04:42:43+00:00

10 years

happypillows · 2014-09-29T05:03:34+00:00

A lot of people wait until they enter the gray zone, then realize they are in the gray zone. Too late.

Flirting and "game" is a lot more high-speed than people think. You've heard about how women decide if they want a guy in the first 30 seconds (or whatever it is now). The fact that women make an educated decision early on is absolutely true (obviously not ALL women).

Everyone is different, but rapport is also a huge part of attraction for women. Sometimes it takes a good conversation for the tides to turn...thus the reason to go on dates and/or isolate that person at a party and get to know them. If they aren't responding to that, then move on.

weedmylips1 · 2014-09-29T15:17:32+00:00

Fuck Yes Or No

cooledcannon · 2014-09-29T08:59:12+00:00

For most guys I would say attraction is built right away or within the first few minutes/seconds. Imo game is to make sure that the attraction never dies, and a lot less so trying to "build" it over time.

That being said, dont pull out too early; she may be attracted or into you but not show it yet. Keep trying to escalate.

Sedditor829 · 2014-09-29T09:10:40+00:00

If you can't tell you're not being assertive enough. Have you touched her? That is my tell, usually. I touch her on the arm, does she move it away? If I look in her eyes does she keep looking back? These are two good starters. Also try touching twice. I've had girls touch me and in an anxious wreck jumped away when i really wanted it to keep happening.

Endoss · 2014-09-29T01:51:49+00:00

It can take minutes or it can take months. It all depends on how fast you escalate and how you run game. Keep in mind that often times, the faster you build attraction, the less room you have for error.

Title	How long does it usually take to build attraction?
Author	thirdjelly
Upvotes	18
Comments	21
Date	September 29, 2014 12:00 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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