How to avoid "rapid interrogation mode" when I am chatting up a new girl

bllewellyn_1 · 2020-02-25T19:04:59+00:00

Dont ask questions, make statements, especially false ones.

E.g "I read your profile. I especially loved the quote from that Maroon 5 song. It's very catchy."

"Actually, that quote was from Justin Timberlake's song. He' my favorite actor and musician. I so want to see him in concert."

iedaiw · 2020-02-26T02:02:32+00:00

Listen. Nature abhors a vacumn. Sometimes when you ask just pause, once they answer, pause again, and theyll answer more truthfully and be more committed to the convo

machobeefcake · 2020-02-26T02:49:31+00:00

If you want to "stand out" from others asking questions, try not to go into interview mode at all. I mean, sure, get her name and number and some other details. But don't take it too far.

Let's take the question "where are you from?"

Now I don't know about you, but I really couldn't care less about where some random girl I just met is from. I guess it's polite or something, but what one has to realize is that its boring, standard, scripted dialogue. The girl is probably tired of saying the same thing to every guy who has ever talked to her in her entire life.

There's several routes you can go with this information.

One, don't ask the question. There's a lot more you can ask which will tell you a lot more about WHO they are as a person rather than their background.

Two, use humor. Manipulate expectations. I used to go in sets and ask where girls were from. When they would do their standard vague response, I would go "No, no... where do you live? What's your address?" and all of a sudden I'm the guy she spent 3 hours primping for. Now don't go using that line all the time, but recognize instances of scripted/standard dialogue and learn to manipulate them.

Just relax and keep practicing. I was nowhere near a natural at this, but through practice, I've become more successful than I could've ever imagined.

excentrik-art · 2020-02-26T10:20:16+00:00

Just don't care that much.

Friendly WTF talk full of laughter is 10x more effective to get rapport over questions. You can pull it off without even knowing her name, just joking from second one and once she starts needing your validation, you switch to flirt and create tension and build attraction, and close, and repeat. It is not that complicated mate :)

WIA20XX · 2020-02-26T20:06:09+00:00

What's your roadmap for the date?

Knowing where I want to go dictates the conversation

OldSoulBiz · 2020-02-26T22:18:17+00:00

There's another topic going on in this sub that helps with your question. You may have already gone through it, but here it is: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/f9ts6v/how_to_be_more_interesting/

I totally agree with what is being said on there; I am proof of it because I have no interests or hobbies I'm passionate about. It makes it hard for me to get engaged or attached to anything, so I ended up not doing anything with most my life - I'm slowly trying to change that, but I'm struggling and haven't made a lot of progress on that front. I don't have any interesting stories or experiences to share with people other than my thoughts and opinions.

2020-02-27T18:38:50+00:00

my goodness! all these recipes to have a girl sleep with you for a night!

bytheninedivines · 2020-02-25T22:52:45+00:00

I mix up questions with observations and cold-reads.

"What's your favorite food?"

"Shrimp"

"Oh so you must be a big sea food person"

bllewellyn_1 · 2020-02-25T22:35:12+00:00

Just relax, banter, and have fun

Title	How to avoid "rapid interrogation mode" when I am chatting up a new girl
Author	ImPlayingTheSims
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Date	February 25, 2020 5:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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