How to be more chill?

Woujo · 2020-07-29T18:21:53+00:00

Stop trying to impress the other person. Stop caring what they think. You are not "chill" because your anxiety is caused by the fact that you are trying to get the other person to like you. Let that go.

STD_Tyler · 2020-07-29T18:30:59+00:00

Take the chill pill

shakapiontkowskie · 2020-07-29T18:51:55+00:00

The better you get, the more relaxed you become. Get out there and learn.

BackFrmTheDead93 · 2020-07-30T16:01:58+00:00

Do you. If it makes you happy fuck what others think. I am a very laid back and chill type of person. I notice people trying to get attention from people who don’t even care about their wellbeing frm a hole in the wall and lose themselves in the process. What someone THINKS about you, and what someone KNOWS about you makes a difference. They dont like how you dress? Fuck them they didnt buy your clothes. They dont like your car? They dont pay for it. Your life is your life.

I used to feel how you felt. Got into a 7 year relationship just to get my heart broken and i have not been the same since. I am more careless about what others think because my ex would say she didnt care about things i did, but actually did and left me and had a kid immediately after. I just chilled more after that. Out of pain. When deeds like that are done its hard to come back from. Im reserved because of it, but i also get less angry about things. Maybe more sad than anything but we’re only human.

Moral of the story: fuck people. If they cant accept you for who you are then you dont need to change for them. If you want that change make that happen.

Or just simply smoke some weed. Whichever you choose, enjoy your life.

mr_Tobbor · 2020-07-29T19:12:03+00:00

You don't make the conversation. You hear them. Don't try to make them hear you! Have fun if any.

vardarac · 2020-07-29T20:28:01+00:00

keep sentences short. no non-auto caps, light punctuation. just kind of go with the flow lol

612grrl · 2020-07-29T22:43:10+00:00

Don't text back too quickly all the time. Don't double and triple text. If you don't hear back right away act like you don't care. Make a list of things you "say" that work for you. Some of mine are "Hey you" when they text me hi or hey. "Hey stranger..." when they text after I haven't heard from them in awhile. It's flirty with being like "omg I miss you" or "where have you been?"

rhofire · 2020-07-29T23:05:37+00:00

Can you share an example of when this happened to you?

GrandMasterB19 · 2020-07-30T11:18:06+00:00

I think this is a pretty common guy thing. We feel like we have to impress the girl and make her like us, because we come from a frame that she probably doesn't like us so we have to prove how great we are.

This isn't what girls really want though. She doesn't want you to go out of your way to impress her and make her like you. The fact that she's even there means she's at least intrigued, so come at it with the frame "of course she likes me." When you try to impress her, you aren't allowing her to like you. Rather you should focus on expressing yourself to her, so she can get a taste of who you are and decide for herself how likeable you are.

You also do want to speak in a different language in the sense that you don't want to converse with a girl you're seducing in the same way that you converse with your friends and family.

oodieboodie · 2020-07-30T14:46:59+00:00

The real deal is that everyone has different personalities. Some will click and some really won't. I have few friends who I don't see in months and pick up like we just saw each other yesterday. Also, some people know where your coming from or can relate. So it really depends on what you know or been through. You can have new situations and I see the fun in it. But if you don't know what to say just be honest. Pretending or trying hard goes under the poser type.

2020-07-29T18:16:07+00:00

You just gotta chill man, like don't overthink it just do it man

Title	How to be more chill?
Author	160620throwaway
Upvotes	8
Comments	16
Date	July 29, 2020 6:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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