How to be playful?

yrogerg123 · 2019-11-04T17:17:19+00:00

The example I saw was in a fanfiction. It just so happened to talk about asking girl to spend your life together then later saying “fine fine, how about just a single date then?”

This is a good line, and I'm stealing it.

Bring playful is about having the confidence to look silly and foolish, to laugh it off, and to know that it doesn't matter, you'll take the conversation back to whwre you want it, you're in control. Laughing at yourself is very attractive, it shows that you are not easily offended, and that she can relax around you. Stoic guys make girls think they are being judged. Which is fine in its own way, but it's not fun.

big_daddy_007 · 2019-11-04T16:18:24+00:00

Firstly! You need to be stoic in the game Dating is totally a stoic game. You need to accept rejection and learn you don't control other people. You need to constantly develop yourself...become a total stoic.

So fucking no, you ain't giving up stoicism.

Secondly you're asking how to be playful in the title and asking if " sales man trick" works in description. I call it sales man trick " hey that's a 20k guitar it's got X Y Z features" " sorry can't buy it" " okay here's a 12k guitar it has X Y and little bit of Z features" " cool I think I can afford 12k guitar" I personally haven't tried it on a girl But would recommend to ask her out for having some fun rather than date. The word " date" seems to give off too much pressure to many girls.

Paarth_r · 2019-11-04T14:20:54+00:00

It'll be nice if anyone replied to this. Many want to know

DogTrashJonson · 2019-11-04T18:42:32+00:00

I’ve found if I don’t care about the results, I’m naturally more playful. When ya ain’t thirsting for women then you’re prolly just looking to enjoy their company, which they’ll appreciate. Throw some flirting in bc they’re cute so why not and ding ding you’re a catch!

s4ndman1 · 2019-11-04T21:03:52+00:00

You sound a lot like me a few months ago.

I am too serious. I want to be the funny guy in the group. The guy that, when I am not around my friends would say to others that they should meet me because I always brighten other's day and am suave. Then I started chasing it. Learning phrases I heard from my day-to-day people which always seem to come out wrong when I say it, if I remember them, or trying so hard to play things cool but come off like a dick for some reason.

After tons of self-help materials, the boot camps I went to and lurking these Reddit posts I finally realized I have been doing it wrong all along. Acceptance was my problem all along. I am a serious computer nerd that loves studying the inner workings of machine learning. I struggle to communicate what is going on in my brain without thinking it through first. My friend doesn't think I am the funniest guy in the group and I probably won't ever learn how to drink a Martini shaken and you know what? IT IS 100% FINE.

The moment I accepted who I am my life flipped. Chatting with people especially women is now so much easier with the pressure lifted and I make relationships much faster that last longer. My manager asked me what the hell happened and ironically I became funnier and more suave. I am not hilarious, there are jokes I make that women don't always get and that is fine.

Don't get me wrong knowing the structure of jokes and how-to tell stories helps. Going to improve classes will help with confidence but learning phrases or dreaming to be "that" guy only damper improvement. Accept who you are and where you are in your life but don't use it as an excuse to do nothing. Throw on a comedian and listen to the structure of his jokes, not the actual jokes. Say what you want to say and allow the room to laugh or become awkward if it was some stupid shit you said, accept it and move on... NEVER LINGER. You are fucking awesome and people just don't understand you. Raise your opinions and if people don't like it, that is their problem. If you don't have enemies in life you are doing something wrong.

There is a fine line of being who you are and being a dick so take caution. Lifting your opinion is good but telling carol she should rather eat a salad than a chocolate cake in a public space is probably not the way to go. Context matters.

Hope this helped, have a fucking A day.

manonpoint_com · 2019-11-04T22:21:02+00:00

Nothing wrong with reminding yourself consciously until it becomes second nature. That is the way to learn.

Title	How to be playful?
Author	ForzentoRafe
Upvotes	23
Comments	12
Date	November 4, 2019 1:39 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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