How to be that man

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2025-08-28T21:13:55+00:00

Few tips from someone who was a shy guy and even if im not great at it, I had to learn a few things:

- First off, charisma is the #1 thing. Looks matter but not that much. Do not go in thinking that if you get a 6-pack girls will fall for you, they will not. The way I see it the better you look the less personality you need. So a supermodel doesnt need to have charisma to get a girl. But an average looking guy needs a good amount of charisma. An ugly guy, needs a lot of charisma.

- Learn how to tlak to strangers in general (guy or girl). Dont go up to a girl thinking "i need to get her number" go up to a girl thinking "im having a good time and she seems cool let's see if she wants to join me in having fun". Dont put her on a pedestal off the bat. In a weird way the best way to get a girl, is to show her that it's ok if she rejects you, you dont need her in your lifeand she is missing out. So for me I started treating girls almost like I would a bro, and they loved it. Girls are not fragile creatures but they get treated as such. Most of them can take a joke better than most guys in my opinion. So I am always been a witty guy, but iwth girls I got nervous and tried to be too nice, once I stopped caring my witty self came out and they all loved me. Just find a common ground. Like if you go up to a guy, you dont care to ever see him again, you mightve seen something you liked (maybe a hat of your favorite team) and complemented him with it. If you get a bland response, you just say "have a nice day" and keep it moving. Or you might get an invitive response and now you just made a friend over some common interest. It's similar with girls. Girls go out to the bars/clubs to have a good tiem with the girls. So meet them where tehy are at. Go to the bars/clubs to have a good time with the boys and see what girls want to join you guys in that fun. Be ok with the idea that you may not get laid that night.

- Even if lokos are not most important, you should work a bit on your looks. I got a buzzcut my whole life. Wore dorky glasses. Dressed and comfortable clothing that didnt match my style. Then I had a female friend who wanted to "dress me up" and I said "fuick it, it ownt hurt". She told me black was my style, she picked a new set of glasses for me, she told me hats were my style, and told me that maybe I shoudl try for a better haircut. I did all that and honestly everybody saw the difference. I probably was a 6 at the time and moved up to a 7-8. Again charisma is #1, but it gets easier when you look good. Also invest in good cologne. I never knew the power of cologne until I started wearing it more regularly and girls always said "omg you always smell good". You want to be the guy that always smells good because girls will want to be around that.

thefastestdriver · 2025-08-28T21:05:14+00:00

Dude you have plenty of resources and look up for guides, ask ChatGPT or whatever… this low effort (zero contribution) posts should be taken out by mods seriously because it fills the sub with nothing valuable

Life-Income2986 · 2025-08-28T21:06:18+00:00

Here's the characteristics of a cool person.

Cool people are perceived to be more extraverted, hedonistic, powerful, adventurous, open, and autonomous

No luck there? Better check to see if you're good...

whereas good people are more conforming, traditional, secure, warm, agreeable, universalistic, conscientious, and calm.

I hope you're at least some of those things.

A general look around here though I would say basically everyone fails in basically every category of both labels and is in fact closer to the complete inverse. I suspect that may be a lot of people's problems.

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-08-28T22:55:48+00:00

1 - Be authentic and honest without filtering yourself, instead of approval-seeking and manipulative.

2 - Don't be needy or try to keep a woman at any cost and always be willing to let her go

3 - Have abundance mentality and always be willing to replace women that disrespect you

4 - Forget about the outcome and do what feels honest in the present regardless of the consequences

6 - Express the desire she causes you to feel in the present moment but without having an agenda

7 - Don't be transactional with women or try to bargain with them

8 - Don't make women responsible for your negative feelings

9 - Stop putting women on a pedestal and stop undervaluing yourself

10 - Don't try to get a woman to like you, instead make a woman feel something

11 - Don't be logical with women, appeal to her emotions instead.

12 - Don't analyse women behaviour with logic or try to look for consistency in meaning

13 - Stop caring about what they want, and instead focus on what you want.

14 - Never chase a woman who pulls away and work on your magnetism and your value instead.

15 - When in doubt follow say or do what your heart wants, not what you think she will prefer you to do or say.

16 - Remember that attraction is a temporary feeling, and it's not a negotiable.

17 - If she is distant for no reason, don't try to fix anything

18 - Always be willing to walk away and mean it without hesitation

19 - Don't negotiate with women whether you should do or say something.

20 - Don't act like a friend with a woman that you would either like to fuck or date romantically.

Ok_Pattern4206 · 2025-08-29T07:30:14+00:00

- Ability to be %100 yourself

- Ability to detach yourself from people, things, situations. Ability to say F.U. and leave everything and everyone without a flinch makes other people respect you more.

- Ability to accept your shortcomings as is and willingly trying to improve them (not because of external motivaion or external goals, but doing it just for yourself).

pickupmid123 · 2025-08-28T22:02:53+00:00

“That guy” is not something you can fake. You need to actually work on yourself to live with passion and purpose. That means cutting out unproductive pursuits (video games, porn, weed) and embracing a more disciplined life that involves setting, working on, and achieving difficult goals. Ideally those goals are in pursuit of something bigger than yourself - usually work related but doesn’t need to be. Charisma comes from genuine pride in your own accomplishments.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2025-08-28T22:43:23+00:00

ImpossibleBritches · 2025-08-29T02:08:31+00:00

Owen Cook has a lot to offer on thos subject spread through his YouTube videos.

Own-Neighborhood8150 · 2025-08-29T05:21:08+00:00

Be born beautiful

VR22_99 · 2025-08-30T07:50:39+00:00

Challenge yourself in every area of life

norwegiandoggo · 2025-08-28T21:29:11+00:00

Look up the dictionary definitions of the words: "seductive" and "charismatic"

Then you'll have your answer. I assume you already know what the word "man" means.

How to be that man? Either you become that man naturally, or you have to learn how to become that guy through obtaining knowledge and practice. Genetics also play a role in placing limits to how seductive and charismatic you can become, as well as how fast you can learn.

Title	How to be that man
Author	mohamed_WD
Upvotes	13
Comments	19
Date	August 28, 2025 9:00 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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