How to deal with 3rd parties?

ROBYoutube · 2024-02-21T03:55:27+00:00

Well, if you want, you could hit up the nearest boxing / MT / MMA gym and just train a few times a week for a year. I promise you won't be scared of being hit any more.

Honestly though it's not necessary. I was a bouncer in very dangerous pubs and clubs for many years and I can count on one hand the amount of attacks where there was literally no reason. Every other time it was two guys being dickheads to each other until a line was crossed.

If some guy comes over and says 'please stop hitting on my girlfriend' and you reply with 'yeah man of course, I wasn't aware she was with someone, have a good night', your chances of being in an altercation are very low.

Think of other people joining the conversation as a chance to do a lot of positive work towards forging a bond with a woman. If you gain the approval of a female friend of theirs who they trust, that is a huge endorsement. If she looks at how you behave in direct contrast with another man and sees you are miles better than him in ways that matter to her, that can also be a boon.

I find a lot of people though are on the losing end of those assessments and are looking for a way around it that doesn't involve introspection and hard work.

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-02-21T04:20:48+00:00

As far as other guys go, they interrupt your set because they envy the fact that you can approach women, but don't consider you physically intimidating enough to not disrespect you. Essentially, you probably look like a guy who is easy to pick on and someone who would tolerate disrespect (which you admittingly are). In the short term, learn how to create boundaries and if you need to tell a guy to leave, tell him to leave. Long term, put on muscle and learn self defense so you can be strong and know how to defend yourself physically.

If you don't want to do that, your only other option is to develop superior social skills to make them look dumb. But, ultimately, if someone can trample over you they can trample over you.

This article discusses how to get other men to respect you: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-become-a-man-everyone-respects?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

No_Plan8250 · 2024-02-21T20:04:55+00:00

I notice you say "angry BFs" and that you've got in trouble approaching before. Did you hit on someone's girl and get in trouble?

How have you got in trouble before - let's deal with that first, because it's going to continue to be a source of anxiety for you.

grumpyfrumpyrumpy · 2024-02-21T20:25:12+00:00

Trust me, it’s not worth it to approach a girl that has a man with them at the bar. You have to be nonchalant and simply observe at least for a few minutes to make sure they don’t have a man. He could be taking a piss or something when you go up to a girl, you never know. Also, you can easily (after some practice) tell by girls body language if they have the intention of talking to dudes that night. They might just want to be left alone. I’ve made the mistake of trying to talk to girls that gave absolutely no good signals whatsoever and I get shut down almost every time.

Plus, other people will witness you going up to every single girl there and think you’re thirsty/horny af. That’s a horrible look.

Choose approaches wisely, imo. Take that extra few minutes and glance over once in a while to determine whether or not it’s a good approach. This has helped my approach game so much. Be smart with approaches!

Awkward_Freedom_4551 · 2024-02-22T18:18:40+00:00

You're too attached to outcomes. Be free, and be like water. Whatever happens, you can deal with. Pour water into a vase, it becomes the vase. Into a cup, it becomes the cup. You have a friend show up, they are your friend too. Stop resisting what is.

Title	How to deal with 3rd parties?
Author	TurboBanned
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	February 21, 2024 2:48 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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