How to escalate properly?

justmuro · 2020-04-19T16:13:43+00:00

Escalation never made any sense to me until one day it clicked. Now I can tell you how I do it but escalation is very personality related and execution is based on you. What I can do for you is give you guide lines on when, how it looks like, and signs.

Now the first level of escalation is sexual interest. This is as simple as telling yourself you wanna fuck this girl. Imagine ripped her cloths off while looking at her. This will naturally change your eyes to a flirtatious look. From there every now and then take a step to increase physical comfort. It’s all about telling the girl I want you and will make you want to give yourself to me. When you take a step forward stay there for a reasonable amount of time so it becomes the new base line and doesn’t go backwards hopefully. Eventually you’ll introduce enough physicality, flirting, sexual tension, where she knows your not trying to be a friend your gonna rip her cloths off hold her hands down and god knows what else. This is how a girl gets turned on. Present a mysterious man who she knows wants her sexually but also is subtle about it. It’s a rollercoaster that gets her wet and horny for you.

It’s called game because girls like to perform a dance before having sex. They are completely reliant on comfort to enjoy or even consider sex. But it’s also important for her to know you are looking at her sexually. The only backlash is you might not be able to be friends later on but that hasn’t been an issue for me either because I don’t care and the girl knows it’s in my court.

earsurgery9 · 2020-04-19T14:36:18+00:00

move on too a new girl. She's not attracted.

Attracted girls won't reject escalation

It's a numbers game

AdrianSedgewick · 2020-04-19T14:36:23+00:00

Are you talking about phone/texting conversations or IRL? Girls you have already met or have yet to meet? This matters.

I “meet” guys via online dating apps. If they try to get sexual in text before we have met/before I know if there’s chemistry it is a turn off. This is unfortunate because sexual compatibility IS extremely important, but so is feeling like someone wants more than just sex. My feelings may also be related to my age but I’m not sure. I’m mid-30s F for reference.

BegginerGamer · 2020-04-19T19:50:15+00:00

Make it verbal as soon as you meet them, a compliment should do fine. So she knows you’re not seeing her as a friend, from there escalation won’t be rejected. Just either: 1) Earn her affection (can be hard because it might show you’re too invested and that you’re too ‘easy’. Or 2) Let the idea ferment in her head (long timeframe play), and flirt/escalate whenever possible.

Depends on the speed you want things to go. For me, girls within my social circle I let it ferment, start with a compliment when I meet them, then try escalating by teasing and touching, but I pay a lot of attention because if I make a wrong move with a girl from my social circle, it doesn’t look good for me. Now with randoms it doesn’t matter and I get to sex as fast as possibke

boodie_1961 · 2020-04-19T15:29:43+00:00

You have to have some degree of trust built. Touch her forearm or hand (gently, not sexually): if she reciprocates, it's a green light, if not and she typically retracts, red light - no go zone. She might even say "I like you but I prefer us to be friends ...". Most likely it's time to move on.

NOPECaptain · 2020-04-20T02:03:13+00:00

Girls who pull back when you take things to the next level aren’t into you. Move on and don’t feel bad.

boodie_1961 · 2020-04-19T15:19:32+00:00

Escalation is a subtle art. You must be suave and not brash or creepy. You must feel if there is enough chemistry to start the 'kino' and this is learnt by trial and error. They generally encourage it, though, if they like you. One last word: don't flirt at work, it can put your job at risk (e.g. if the escalation goes wrong).

greatlifeahead · 2020-04-19T21:14:36+00:00

Maybe you are coming in too strong. If there is not enough comfort or she is not attracted then escalation will drive her away fast. Can you give an example?

Title	How to escalate properly?
Author	shusain2991
Upvotes	8
Comments	20
Date	April 19, 2020 1:53 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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