How to even hold a basic conversation

Prestigious_Water336 · 2024-11-03T18:26:52+00:00

You kind of keep branching off.

And before you know it you'll be talking about something completely different than what you started you with.

AcrossTheShimenawa · 2024-11-03T18:41:50+00:00

It's a skill to be trained.

Verbal flow is something that starts in your body before you get your logical mind involved.

First part is developing a mind-mouth connection. Like a muscle, you must necessarily force yourself to keep talking even when you can't think of anything. A big part of this step requires divorcing logical content from the words you're saying.

Once you have that, you want to layer on varying your vocal tonality and adding expressiveness to your face and body. Once you have that, you can reintroduce logic and fuse it with emotion once again. This is an advanced skillset that few acquire, and even fewer master.

Second step would be to learn to listen. Really truly listening to someone means putting all your thoughts aside in the moment and embodying a sort of emptiness.

Most people are naturally better at one than the other.

To be a master conversationalist you want to learn both.

From a seduction standpoint. When a women feels heard and understood by you (listening) plus there's sexual chemistry (sparked by your speaking ability plus physicality) she'll basically be begging for you to take her.

Scheefgaan · 2024-11-03T19:24:54+00:00

Keep branching off and ask open questions. Let’s say you’re at a party and you cold approach. “Hey my name is OP, what’s your name?” “Stacy? Nice to meet you stacy, that’s a beautiful name. where are you from?” “Anonville? Cool, i’ve never been there, you’d have to show me around. What’s fun to do there?”

If the conversation comes to a halt, don’t be afraid to fuck off for a second and come back later. Don’t come across as desperate by clinging to a dead conversation

SplashGodNate · 2024-11-03T18:36:33+00:00

This sounds cliche, but truly, be yourself. Just treat it as a conversation with your homies, except a bit more reserved. The more thought and worry you put into it, the harder it’s going to be to hold a conversation.

daddyvow · 2024-11-04T00:22:33+00:00

Just keep saying words. You’ll make some mistakes but that’s the only way to learn. The key thing is just say whatever is on your mind in that moment. If it helps, pretend you’re like an annoying 10 year old boy with ADHD. Then dial back it as you get into the flow of things.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-11-04T00:25:42+00:00

What are you curious about the other person? Then ask them about it.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-11-04T02:21:03+00:00

Stop thinking and just be in the moment.

SithLordJediMaster · 2024-11-04T04:30:57+00:00

Introduce Yourself

then

ARE - Anchor, Reveal, Encourage

Anchor - An observation you have of her or the environment.

Reveal - A comment on the observation

Encourage - Get her talk about the topic or observation.

Example: You notice that she's wearing a Michigan State shirt. "I see that you're from Michigan. How is it over there?"

Then you just keep asking her questions by the topics that she gives you in her answers.

heartrob22 · 2024-11-04T09:41:19+00:00

Try to figure out the question in the conversation to ask for it...you can add more opinion or fun element to keep the things going...you can have a conversation on the trendy topic

Title	How to even hold a basic conversation
Author	chad-harshit
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	November 3, 2024 5:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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