How to know if I am doing everything right?

water_reducer · 2026-01-21T17:22:41+00:00

Numbers are generally lottery tickets, should be going for it when she is with you if you can.

You’ll get conflicting messages from guys trying to give you advice on what to do ‘right’. Whether it’s the pua or the looksmaxxers, they all disagree on everything.

For pua it’s direct vs indirect crowd. “You need to open her friends, win over the group, start out amogging the alpha, utilize body language to show disinterest to the target, then when she gives you iois from successfully applying group theory strats, you go in and start working the target….” To which the direct gamers would say “just approach girls man to woman, freedom from outcome, give no fucks, tell her you thought she was cute and introduce yourself”. Blah blah blah.

For looksmaxxing it’s “roid tan tattoos” masc men vs skinny twink. “Grow a beard, get jacked, short hair, wear chinos “nooo you need to be freshly shaven with longer hair, leanmaxx, with tight fitting clothes”. “Jaw, it’s all about the jaw” “no it’s height, take the height pill wear lifts” “dye your hair, peacockmaxx brah” “get tattoos” “no tattoos are trashy af, get blue eye contacts” etc.

You’ll never get a clear indicator on how to look, what to say or how to behave from anybody giving advice. Just take what you read, apply it and see how it works for you. The field is king, everything people say online is just bros trading notes back and forth about their ideas on what works for them. Just take the pressure off though, because nobody on this sub is getting the results you might think they are lol.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-01-21T15:43:56+00:00

What is the setting? Who do you approach? How do you approach?

What is your close?

Thin_Protection5616 · 2026-01-22T13:11:34+00:00

Start journaling or writing field reports after every time you go out.

Try to identify what you did well, what you did poorly, and what you should work on next time.

Then implement that.

OpinionThink481 · 2026-01-21T17:47:36+00:00

The way you know you didn't do everything right is by realizing that you got rejected 9 times and the one who gave you the number didn't go anywhere.

And the way you figure out what you are doing wrong is by learning about social dynamics and the fundamentals of seduction. There are books for that, such us, Daygame Code, Models, Mystery Method, etc which be found in Amazon.

Timely_Assistance418 · 2026-01-22T06:02:17+00:00

By results, keep pracricing

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-01-21T15:45:21+00:00

If you are a beginner, this is normal. Don't expect (consistent) results in your first 1000.

Remember, you are building a skillset that will be usable for a long time.

For me it took 400 sets to get a lay, Krauser took 1000.

Focus on being able to approach without freezing up and have some control of the conversation while being in set, this is the focus for now.

Alternative-Mud4739 · 2026-01-21T15:46:11+00:00

N = 10. Statistically insignificant. You said you were coming back from illness so I expect some rustiness. Do it for 10 more days and then tell us how it goes

jackthehat6 · 2026-01-21T17:04:44+00:00

there is no 'right'. Every coach/expert disagrees massively with the next 'expert' about literally every single nuance of 'game'. This was drilled into my head early. The first book I read when I began many years ago was the mysterymethod and the 2nd was models. They disagree on every....single...thing lol

As long as you are not spitting when you talk or just being super super weird, then you are likely doing it 'right' (certainly according too at least a handful of 'pros'). you walk up, say hi, try to start a convo and see if she's receptive and interetsted, and if she is you go for the number or an Instant date etc. And from there, you escalate the touch etc all teh way to sex. It essentially largely takes care of itself (since SHE also is playing a similar game!) WHEN you open a girl who is into you. If you open a girl who's NOT into you, it was already over before it began. No matter how 'right' you approach. Recognise her signals of DISinterest, and move on to the next one

ps - you example of getting 1 number taht didn't go anywhere from 10 approaches means absolutely nothing in terms of your question. The 'best' PUA in teh world could easily get 100 rejections in a row for example (say, he's much much older and obese and only hitting on super hot 19 year old college girls for example)

Title	How to know if I am doing everything right?
Author	Dependent_One_8131
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Date	January 21, 2026 3:35 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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