I have an issue with conversation skills

ConnectionSame5401 · 2025-10-05T16:32:20+00:00

Most conversations go the same ways. What I recommend is making observations about the girl. “I can tell you’re not from out here” Even if you are wrong at she’s from the area the conversation continues to flow.

barlowaplesand · 2025-10-05T18:50:44+00:00

I see lots of guys on here claim to be experts, but I basically NEVER see them same posters give actual verbatim lines and stuff so I doubt you'll get any help on this sub, tbh.

They'll say 'just say 'hi'' lol.

Alarmed_Box1198 · 2025-10-05T19:51:43+00:00

It happens. I like to simply ask what they like to do for fun. Remember, everything should be light, uplifting and fun. You want them to associate you with positive feelings. Asking what a girl does for fun can naturally lead into all sorts of different directions. Chances are high you'll have something in common to add to. The best part? Then the conversation can naturally lead into "wanna go do that fun thing together sometime?"

becomesharp · 2025-10-06T14:53:36+00:00

Good job getting out there and opening, man!

I'm not sure if you're opening during the day or night, but it sounds like day time (if im wrong let me know) so here's my advice for that:

Don't open with push pull. Its weird and gamey and comes off disingenuous, like youre a prank youtuber.

If youre stopping someone on the street, open direct from behind with, "hey excuse me..." (she turns around)

"i saw you and you are absolutely adorable and i had to come meet you. I'm <your name>" and then shake her hand (assuming you're in the west).

She will introduce herself and then you visualize what a girl with her name looks like. Try not to reference a common celebrity with her name. Visualize the vibe of what a girl with her name seems like.

Does she look/seem like your mental image? If yes, say "wow you do look exactly like a <her name>" and then explain why you think so.

If she doesn't look like her name, say the opposite: "oh wow i wouldn't have guessed <her name> at all. <her name> to me seems more like <whatever you visualize>.

This should buy you enough time/space to be able to continue the conversation organically. If you're still running out of things to say, ask her if she thinks your name matches your vibe.

If youre STILL running out of things to say, it's because youre in your head thinking of what to say. Stop doing that. Engage senses and observe whats around you and pay attention to everything going on when she's talking. She will give you PLENTY to work with but you have to listen carefully and pay attention. Thinking of what to say will virtually GUARANTEE you will freeze up.

Tips:

* Try to frame this in the positive because no one wants to be told they dont look like an ashley because ashleys are hot.

* If she gets flustered and doesn't say her name (which happens sometimes), smile and say "oh this is the part where you're supposed to say your name"

* You must smile on the opener.

* Don't get too close when you open. If you startle her, youre too close.

* Don't do this opener if youre ALREADY next to her, like if she's next to you in line at starbucks. In that case, open situationally.

* Your job is to be (and come off) normal, cool, happy, and RELAXED. If you try to project "im alpha and badass," it will only look disingenuous and try hard and 99% of women will read right through it.

Dandys3107 · 2025-10-06T09:04:19+00:00

Tap into your feelings or look around to get some inspiration from the current circumstances. Also, if you don't have a more or less clear azimuth for a conversation, it's not a surprise your mind turns blank. Why did you approach this girl? Wanna get some information from her? Wanna get to know her better? Wanna compliment her? Wanna take her out someday or maybe now? Wanna touch some specific topic with her? Wanna come closer, look her deep in the eyes and say first thing that comes to you? I am rather skeptical about running forward to the girl you like with a blank mind, unless you know you have some decent communication and social skills already, outcome of your totally random interaction will rather not turn magically in your favor. Also, remember to loosen your muscles and take some deep breaths beforehand, if your body gets stiffened, your mind will follow.

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-10-05T16:56:26+00:00

Quit living on the internet and talk to most people in person, not online. You're probably like a lot of socially awkward shut-ins of the Gen Z era who are more conditioned for texting instead of speaking.

Title	I have an issue with conversation skills
Author	Dependent_One_8131
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	October 5, 2025 4:25 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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