How to make it clear that I'm looking for something serious?

sorry_mommy · 2018-03-12T15:01:45+00:00

Don't. Whether you're online dating or daygaming or nightgame, one thing is key: play it cool. Act like you're just being casual, hanging out with the girl, seeing if you like her, but not pressuring her into anything serious. The second she gets wind that you're taking things more serious than she is is the second she feels overwhelmed and bails. You can absolutely have this aim in mind, but don't let her know it. Just quietly vet her to yourself, and gradually work her up to serious. Any way,you just met her, how do you know you want to be serious with her anyway?

If girls seem to think you're a player, then you're probably coming off too intense. Don't let her think that you're gaming her, make her think that this is "just happening" and she's so lucky to have had this chance encounter with you. Don't game her so hard, use just enough game to keep her talking to you, let everything else flow freely and naturally.

tab13092 · 2018-03-12T17:33:59+00:00

First hand experience, sorry_mommy is absolutely right. I was seeing a girl, played it cool for a few months (she was actually kind of being overbearing believe it or not; really moving things a long kinda faster then I had anticipated)

I reciprocated, and subtly gave her a peak of my cards so to speak and she literally just dipped within like a week.

Granted, come find out she had a boat load of issues in her personal life but still.

Be reserved in expressing your true feelings until you know they'll be reciprocated. Unitl then, cool calm and collected.

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-12T21:12:30+00:00

Your approach is not how love, and LTR's work. It's an epic fail. It's a needy frame as well.

LTR's happen over time, by compiling positive emotions, fun, and intimacy ORGANICALLY.

This is how strong, independent adults with options form LTR's.

If you find a woman who knocks your socks off, all you have to do is be emotionally-centered (IE, not try and force into a serious relationship), fun, good in bed, and fit. If you do these things enough, she'll bring up exclusivity.

You simply date and see women until this happens.

zfgee · 2018-03-13T00:12:50+00:00

You are focused on the wrong thing. Focus on meeting women, getting to know them, hanging out, having fun and hooking up.
If you are both really into each other and available, things will just unfold.

quixotic_banana · 2018-03-13T05:45:47+00:00

Thanks for the comments guys, but I think you've misunderstood the situation. I'm looking for a potential girlfriend, and am not putting pressure on them at all. However they seem to think I'm a major player even though I'm not using game techniques or trying to tease them or any of that. Am I to assume that shy girls can't be picked up in the day? I get their numbers but they flake nearly every time. BTW, I'm not being intense at all. I just don't understand how they could think I'm a player in this situation. Casual chat and then ask her out for coffee, seems low key?

Title	How to make it clear that I'm looking for something serious?
Author	quixotic_banana
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	March 12, 2018 10:27 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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