How to not fuck it up?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-05-07T20:14:06+00:00

Bro. You always have to be okay with fucking it up.

The more you worry about not fucking things up - the more youll fuck It up by overthinking it and being anxious about it and shit.

You have to be outcome independent.

Be okay with any outcome. Just do your best and that's it. You can only control your effort. Not the outcome. Be okay with failing and fucking it up!!!!

You will probably fuck it up anyway so you might as well become okay with that fact right now.

It's okay to fuck It up!! It's no big deal my man.

Just learn from your mistakes. That's all

ThatDarnSmell · 2025-05-07T20:26:35+00:00

Don't be so afraid of losing her. You've moved quickly by your standards, but also realize you barely know her after a month. That's nothing. I was married and lived with my ex-wife for years and it took a pandemic to fully realize we were a terrible couple. Slow it down and make sure you get to know her well.

You're in the early honeymoon stage and so keep having fun, but it's the time to really screen her and get to know her. Pay attention to how she interacts with her friends and strangers and what she says about her family, etc. Make sure she's not mentally ill. I avoided many red flags and even married a crazy woman because like you are experiencing, it was a fast paced whirlwind, she was hot and we had sex every day. You have to take a deep breath and evaluate the situation.

It's really important to maintain your sense of self and identity when dating someone. Don't be afraid of causing conflict by having a difference of opinion or liking things she may not like. As a couple, you learn to put aside differences to find middle ground. So don't sacrifice who you are to try to be what you think would be the perfect man. Keep working hard, maintain your hobbies, etc. Don't give any of things up to be overly available for date scheduling and don't suddenly change in morals, values, etc.

Material_Funny_1203 · 2025-05-07T23:39:20+00:00

Congruity: Make sure who you portray yourself to be is exactly who you are. People will accept flaws if you own them.
Connection: Talk about her feelings and share yours. Be 100% honest with yourself.

tacoman0077 · 2025-05-07T21:45:57+00:00

Abundance

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-05-07T21:13:59+00:00

You have a relationship with another individual, not with yourself; hiccups, commotions, and conflicts are inevitable. In fact they will spice things up. Embrace them.

ImpossibleBritches · 2025-05-08T01:34:30+00:00

This is a good question to ask her.

I think anyone introduced in deepening their relationship and building a life together would appreciate being asked thos question.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2025-05-08T18:46:40+00:00

start reading self help books dont get into any cults tho lol

RealisticDiscipline7 · 2025-05-13T19:05:41+00:00

Continue to get your social needs met across a diversity of settings and ppl so that you dont rely 100% on her for them. Take time for yourself when you need it, and give her a sense that she has plenty of space when she feels she needs it.

Take it from a guy who’s never been passed 3 months 🥴

Gold-Elk4014 · 2025-05-19T02:37:01+00:00

Hang out 1-2/x per week. Make sure every hang is fun and that you blow her mind in the bedroom.

Allow her to pursue you for more. Do not become relationship focused - allow her the space to come to you.

advtre · 2025-05-07T19:04:21+00:00

Just be yourself

Title	How to not fuck it up?
Author	CrewUnited8344
Upvotes	12
Comments	15
Date	May 7, 2025 6:45 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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