How to transition topics from conversations in a fun flirty way

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-23T14:12:41+00:00

You: Hi how are you?

She: I’m good thanks

The problem here is that your first question seems unnecessary since you don’t really care how she is. Why dont you just skip it?

You: “Hey i have to tell you something, i thought you look cute so i wanted to find out of your personality is cute too, my name is Tom…”
She: “Oh wow, thanks, My name’s Karla”
You: “Oh no, a Karla?… My mom warned me about girls named Karla”
She: Why?
You: “I don’t know… she told me they bite… Should i be scared you are gonna bite me”
She: Haha… Not for now! but we’ll see (she plays along)
You: “Oh, shit! I’m gonna pretend like my heart didn’t just go from 0 to 100 real quick”
She: Haha, nah I’m kidding.. I don’t really bite. I’m a nice girl”
You: “Nah, you look so evil, i bet your head twists around like the exorcist”
She: Haha, you ere exaggerating.
You: I know i’m just messing with you… I’m loving your sense of humour.
She: Thank you, but it’s because you are really funny.
You: “So… If you think i’m funny and I like your sense of humor… I guess now I need to know your zodiac sign?”
She: Oh haha, i’m libra and you?
You: No way!! I’m libra too…
She: Wow really? What a coincidence!
You: Yeah… Hey listen… Let’s just get married Karla! We are perfect for each other.
She: “Hahahaha, you are crazy.”
You: “Come on! We are Libra! I’m sure your friends will make great maids of honor”
She: “Oh for sure, they would love to be maids of honor”
You: “I tell you what, we get married in Las Vegas and then we fly off to the caribbean”
She: Ok but only because we are going to the caribbean”
You: Let’s practice shall we? Here hold my arm
She: Holds your arm
You: Start singing the Wagner Wedding March and then say: ”We are gathered here today… to celebrate this thing called love at first sight”… If anyone feels any reason why these two should not be married, let them speak now, or forever hold their peace”
She: “Laughing her ass off”
You: “May i kiss the bride?”
She: “Noooo hahahaha”
You: “That’s it i want a divorce”
She: “Wow, that was a short marriage”

So basically this is how you could make a conversation fun and flirty, rather than making a boring job interview style conversation.

HankScorpio4242 · 2022-03-24T01:47:44+00:00

If you don’t have anything to say, ask a question. Then ask another one about whatever she said to the first one. And so on until she asks you a question.

Aaron_77777 · 2022-03-23T11:57:47+00:00

Keep it light and play with your words.

vardarac · 2022-03-23T13:12:58+00:00

I'm not that good at the flirting part yet, which you'll definitely want to sprinkle into your dates/approaches, but I'm better at one on one conversation:

Make inferences about her based on the information available to you. Where/how did you meet her? What does she think about the place you are both sitting/standing(/kneeling?/hanging?) What might her clothes, jewelry, tattoos say about her? Not to encourage stereotypes, but do her accent, ethnicity, family history suggest anything about her likes or dislikes, the types of relationships she might have? Ask questions related to the environment you're in: What does she think of the band? Or of the different drinks on offer? Or what does she like about other parks she has been to?

More important than what you ask are the positive feelings you identify (that sounds <emotion!>) from each thing; and what more can be drawn that thing. Each piece of information she offers is a small clue that can open up many new and different paths. For example, does she work as a nurse, vet? Then does she have a high stress tolerance or desire to be helpful; and how does that reflect in how else she lives her life? Finance - Has a lavish, interesting lifestyle?

Think about what she reminds you of. Comparisons that you both understand are a great way to express what you are thinking or feeling

Share your own similar feelings, experiences, or hobbies along the way and the conversation can deepen and expand.

You can couch these things positively, or be playfully negative once she knows you well enough to know you're not just being a dick. Occasionally, exaggerate wildly about how you imagine her to be, letting her correct you; seek to entertain yourself with entertaining her as a side effect. Think of it as kind of a cross between improv and an interview, swinging one way or the other depending on whether you feel you might be going too dancing monkey or too boring/predictable/static.

Do not be afraid of silences or changing the subject when there are silences. Keep your speech slow, deep, and relaxed unless there is a reason to be excited.

It takes a lot of constant practice to stay good at all this if you're not naturally social, and I find this format doesn't translate well to text or loud, high-energy/dynamic environments.

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-03-23T15:58:39+00:00

You should ask yourself a few questions:

Do you think you can't move your conversations because you don't know how to transition, or is it because you are filtering yourself and sticking to safe topics you already know something about?

In other words, is it possible you already know what to say to liven up the conversations? Perhaps you are keeping it safe and staying within your comfort zone. This is what most people do. As a result people can get in their heads looking for the right thing to say, the right topic, the right words, and then just freeze up. Or if they don't freeze up, they just stick to what they already know which is standard small talk. Sounds like this is whats happening.

If you take a few social risks and blurt something out at random, generally something that is funny or cocky/funny, or anything else, you may see that it's not a big deal and you have other places you can go with conversation. By taking the social risk and surviving, you grow your conversation skills.

Just try amping things up a bit. Teach yourself that you don't need the perfect topic or words all the time and you can have fun and drop that into conversations. Once you get into the zone so to speak, new topics and interesting conversations will just flow out of you.

Title	How to transition topics from conversations in a fun flirty way
Author	CraftyAd5327
Upvotes	10
Comments	19
Date	March 23, 2022 11:45 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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