I am seeking my ex-gf's validation too much

EpicVuze · 2017-03-04T16:30:25+00:00

Ghost her man... or just be so pro u don't need anyone's validation but your own.

flashbang123 · 2017-03-04T18:20:08+00:00

Burn/block her number. You'll never get over her unless you do this. Delete your social media/Facebook, you don't want constant reminders of her popping up.

Burn those boats son!

Look to the future!

abstractpickupartist · 2017-03-04T18:01:08+00:00

Best way to not live in the past is to have a good present.

Go out, have fun, meet more women. She'll fade.

swissarm · 2017-03-04T19:19:44+00:00

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Particularly the last chapter is relevant to you. We live in a place of abundance. No one person can make you happy. Your ex is not unique or special. Literally countless other women can make you happy. Go out and meet some new girls and never think about your ex again.

ladyespee · 2017-03-04T18:46:21+00:00

The most annoying thing you can do is to check up on her to see how she's doing. By that I mean to see if she's single or with someone. If she's single it makes you feel better about yourself but when she's not it makes you feel crappy (My ex always did this very couple months after we broke up). If she's your ex, it happened for a reason. I agree with blocking her number and moving on. You deserve better!

bigboss2014 · 2017-03-04T19:17:13+00:00

Dealing with something similar. Finally found a girl I wanted to go out with rather than game. Things never really clicked, she broke it off, I asked if we could try again, she said we'd be better off as friends.

I'm tender over it as it's very recent, but the best thing you can do when you're down is push yourself to the extreme. Now is the time you need to learn to take better care of yourself, and stop perusing women.

Take some time to yourself, hit the gym, read some good books, eat healthier, peruse a hobby.

If you can take care of yourself at your worst, you'll be amazing at your best.

SydniDrake8 · 2017-06-03T16:13:38+00:00

I need validation Not salvation .

I'm hard on myself and I can't let go. I feel so stuck, I yearn to grow.

I think to myself, "I can be more", It's making my life feel more like a chore.

I've got blessings I need to address. Looking back doesn't mean I regress.

I want to be well thought of with my name on their mind. Everyone says I'm one-of- a- kind.

They sure don't show it. And it makes me feel unfit.

There I go again feeling less. I want more people to be bold and confess.

At the end of the day all I have is myself, I'll never settle and be put on the shelf.

What do you live for on this day? Get out in the world and let yourself say All the beautiful and ugly things that you feel. I'm the only one that feels real.

I don't need validation. I need a vacation.

https://plus.google.com/100669073635990062822/posts/PTidkcTT6zP

Zeus_Tootz · 2017-03-04T17:47:11+00:00

I am dealing with a similar thing with my ex. Best thing you can do is become the best version of yourself as possible and ghost her or if you do speak with her come off happy about a life you're having without her and mildly distracted to show that you have moved on and are doing very well. This will drive her crazy. Be confident with yourself always, girls come and go.

Woujo · 2017-03-04T18:44:38+00:00

Did she reject you? Then you need to cut contact until you are over her.

I wrote an article about this:

http://www.woujo.com/blog/breakup

http://www.woujo.com/blog/2016/5/24/how-to-cultivate-your-inner-world

yallapapi · 2017-03-04T22:13:42+00:00

The only way to conquer your fears is to face them. Ghosting is the easy solution, but ultimately will not solve your problem.

Go see her again. If you find yourself seeking her validation, then you know you haven't improved yourself enough. It's that simple. There is nothing you can "do" in her presence that will allow you to overcome this. The only way to stop seeking her validation is to have such a higher self-perception than the previous you who sought her validation, that no longer give a shit what she thinks anymore.

Imagine you suddenly became a famous celebrity on the level of, I don't know, Justin Beiber. You're riding in limos, girls are throwing their panties at you and you live in a mansion. Your horizons have expanded to the point where your dumpy old ex-girlfriend's opinion of you doesn't matter, because you've fucked a hundred models in the backseat of your Bentley before performing in front of 20,000 people.

I'm not saying you need to get famous, but if you find yourself still "caring what she thinks" then you have not improved yourself enough.

Good luck.

Willbo · 2017-03-04T22:41:52+00:00

Just from the first 5 words I know that you're not approaching this correctly.

Because of her I've changed

She didn't do jack shit, it was all you buddy. You need to stop placing her on a pedestal and start creating your own value. Women don't like needy leeches that suck up to them, they like providers that make their life better. If I can detect this over the internet, she's definitely going to detect this in person and realize you never changed.

You're not going to like what I have to say, but you need to stop talking to her and focus on yourself. Every time you talk to her it only demonstrates that you're trying to leech happiness off of her. Yes, without talking to her you'll feel sad and depressed, but that sadness is going to push you to change your life and workout, meet other women, and improve yourself.

If you're lucky she'll see the progress you've made, either through facebook/mutual friends and realize the incredible value she lost that you provided. However, this will only happen if you TRULY focus on improving yourself and put hard work into becoming a valuable person.

Circumpunctual · 2017-03-05T02:22:50+00:00

Bro, ex gf means it's not going to work ever ever ever ever ever. . She's not the one for you, and that's ok. Think about it, do you really want to have a wife that you broke up with and turmoiled over then tried to get back with and posted to reddit asking for advice over? Fuck no of course you don't, you don't deserve that either! It's so natural to be where you are, so relatable, don't sell yourself short buddy. You do not want her... so, then you meet her and she's like oh he doesn't want me? Oh right let's see how this flirting goes.. then you crumble, she wins, you feel like shit. I say, fuck her! Fuck her opinion on you, why would you give any shits about what she thinks? She dumb as fuck cause she let you go, you don't want to be with someone who's dumb, surely? You've already won and you don't even know it xo

nickalexm · 2017-03-05T05:11:47+00:00

Don't go back to her until you don't need her, period. You'll regret it later if you do.

Title	I am seeking my ex-gf's validation too much
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Date	March 4, 2017 4:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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