I have a problem with dating/seduction because I know it'll ultimately lead to sex...??

miles_v · 2013-07-15T11:51:33+00:00

You need to provide some details, mate.

Specifically: 1) Is it a fear of sex that we're talking about? If so, what goes through your mind when you think about a situation where you're with a girl and she's down for it?

2) If it's something else (asexuality, religious reasons,...), let us know. Otherwise we're just poking in the dark (no pun intended).

3) What makes you think it inevitably must lead to sex? A lot of the advice here has to do with generally becoming a more social person, enjoying yourself and living a more fulfilling life. Those are things you can pursue (with some help from the seddit crowd), even if sex isn't always the end-all-be-all.

Throwaway_this_be · 2013-07-15T13:21:36+00:00

Take a look at his history. He has some dick insecurity.

You're dwelling too hard on one aspect. I think your outlook is lazy even. I'd bet you'd trade everything to have a huge pipe so you could lay back and watch girls bounce on it and scream in enjoyment. I yawn at that. Sex is a multifaceted experience more than just shoving your junk in her junk. I'm average, most of the guys in seddit are average and a ton of us have a great sex life.

Sure size matters but you call yourself average. Average is good. If you've got a micro-penis then you kind of have an issue but if you're average, inject a shred of confidence about yourself you'll be fine.

Most guys are average (by definition) and most of us average people still have happy partners and a good sex life. You don't have to be exemplary to be a good lover.

SingAlong_Original · 2013-07-15T16:05:47+00:00

Make her want the dick so bad, then say "Naw bitch, Jesus."

frankdux9 · 2013-07-15T10:39:17+00:00

Why would you not want sex?

Impaler276 · 2013-07-15T13:39:14+00:00

The only fear I have when it comes to this is catching an STD. Especially one of the ones that can be spread by skin to skin contact. The fear doesn't hold me back but it does linger in my mind.

Yes I always wear a condom for vaginal and anal but not for oral. I love oral.

readonlyuser · 2013-07-15T16:18:39+00:00

Spend more time getting to know and trust the girl. You'd be surprised how patient and supportive a partner can be when you have sexual hangups.

Skittles_N_Vodka · 2013-07-15T11:02:56+00:00

I can't... I don't... Is this real English? Did I miss something?

Title	I have a problem with dating/seduction because I know it'll ultimately lead to sex...??
Author	nswtd5
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	July 15, 2013 9:03 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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