My attraction to women is like a light switch; it's 100% on or it's off, and it's only on with about 1/50 women, maybe even less, 1/70. Generally girls that have particular features (a rare combination of tall and toned yet also slightly chubby and with large but shapely boobs)

It sounds silly but it's the only body that gets me going and I've tried to change it but no luck.

I can be at a party surrounded by cute women but not feel an y real sexual attraction towards any, then in walks a girl who I'm into and I can't take my eyes off her. Even if she has a boyfriend right next to her I'll keep staring as though I've been hypnotised.

All that shit about a numbers game doesn't really hold up when I'm either infatuated with someone or not sexually attracted to them. When it comes to to approaching one of these women I obviously get pretty nervous, and rejection is real painful. And I can't just shuffle along to the next girl because chances are she's the only girl at the club or event that I find really sexy. And this is just the physical... I still need someone with a decent personality of course.

First of all can anyone else here relate?

Second, how can I give myself the best chance at getting one of these women? I think my attempt not to fuck things up ends up fucking things up