I just don’t get it

norwegiandoggo · 2021-11-04T08:25:14+00:00

I try so hard, I’ve lost 30 pounds so I’m 5 9 195 pounds which I know is still fat but I guess I’m just not an attractive man.

Congratulations on the hard work man! You are now more attractive than fatter men. But not as attractive as fitter men.

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I honestly can’t remember the last time a girl was actually attracted to me.

Well, what are you doing besides losing weight? How do you hit on women?

I really don’t get it, I don’t do people wrong but all the dudes that treat girls like shit get them

This is not true. This is just you being a jealous player hater. Whether you treat women good or bad doesn't make you more or less attractive. Being attractive has little to do with that. So if you think you'll be attractive by being a super nice / good guy, you're wrong. But if you think you'll be mote attractive by treating women like shit, you're also wrong.

I work full time and go to school.

Oh, so you're just like everyone else. Being average doesn't make you attractive.

I tried to make my tinder interesting, nothing

How do your pictures score on photofeeler.com?

I’ve started dressing way nicer, nothing,

Okay but are you hitting on women? And If so, what did you learn?

I’ve worked out everyday for the last 5 months, nothing.

Okay, but are you hitting on women? And if so, what did you learn?

I’ve even been to other countries on vacation and not even a glance at me.

Okay, but did you hit on women? And If so, what did you learn? Game / seduction is a skill that you learn through trial and error by hitting on women. You don't learn it by dressing nicer or working out. Those things certainly help, but they're secondary. Since you're working out you probably already know the concept of specificity of training. You only get better at what you train. So if you're practicing bench press, that won't make you better with women, because those two things aren't the same exercise. They're not even close to being similar. I hope you see where I'm going with this. You need to hit on women in real life. Frequently. Just like with your exercise routine. Tinder should not be your only way to meet women.

BurnItDownSR · 2021-11-04T07:32:35+00:00

Did you actually learn game? Not the trendy "go and lift" and "treat em mean, keep em keen" shit on the internet but the stuff with the actual psychology?

Because it seems to me you're just doing whatever popular opinion would make you think is attractive, you're not really trying to figure out with an objective lense how to actually solve your problem.

Look at what all the popular shit has gotten you. It may be time to switch up your approach.

recursivePasta · 2021-11-04T08:20:34+00:00

If you thinks looks is all girls care you are missing 95% of your shots.

As the only other guy mentioned, learn game, learn what makes a girl attracted.

Here is the secret, attraction is not a choice.

2021-11-05T00:07:23+00:00

Love yourself so that others can love you, appreciate the process and what you have.

You are mad at yourself when you shouldn’t be, you’re progressing into becoming the man you want to be, you workout often, you travel, you have a career, but you’re still aren’t content with your fantastic progress in life.

Confidence comes from a state of self contentment , when you are 100% with honest yourself and accept you the way you are, only when you do accept yourself for who you can you speak your mind and not care about others opinion, that you can walk and talk in a way what intrigues people because they want to be able to speak as freely, be comfortable alone without company from friends and females.

Plus, if you don’t love yourself where you are now, you can always work to become better for example: you can always lose weight and get a fit body you can be proud of.

TheCaribbeanRedditor · 2021-11-05T01:09:24+00:00

Hey bro, I have a few pieces of advice for you:

You sound pretty depressed. If your mental health balance is off, it will affect your dating success. Speak to a therapist if you feel like you need assistance, because if your mental health is suffering, NOTHING anyone says on this thread will help.
You mentioned a lot of the things you're doing, but you forgot the most important one.

HOW MANY WOMEN ARE YOU APPROACHING.

Even if you're 6"3 looking like a Greek God YOU STILL HAVE TO APPROACH.

Drop the entitlement attitude and stop focusing on the shitheads. Complaining about how "unfair" the game is will get you nowhere. There are plenty of decent guys who get laid regularly, so drop that thought totally out of your mind
Success does not come overnight, sometimes not even over months. Have you had people review your tinder profile? Have you had anyone give you feedback on your dress style? Picked up a personal trainer? As much as your bitching, I can GUARANTEE that you can continue to improve on these three areas.
Be more social. Seriously, you said nothing about going out, having fun, and meeting new people or catching up with old friends. You need to have good social skills to seduce the right women IN PERSON

Leviathansplunge · 2021-11-04T03:28:46+00:00

You said you are not a bad person. You gave yourself your answear. Modern dating is so cutthroat and so grimey u have to be a piece of shit. Think about the type of guys who are great with women...they ain't afraid to wreck entire households or screw over other men. I ain't suggesting to actually become a piece of shit, u just need to look in different places. I'm sorry, if u are a genuinely good person, there ain't much going to happen on tinder. Many girls from o.l.d. ain't going for anybody they don't deem expendable, all they think about is "the next one", not "a good one". Try volunteer projects or local charity events, you need to consider where u can find other good people, and needless to say, the internet and bars ain't the place.

FloatingTelegram · 2021-11-04T03:29:15+00:00

Welcome to the West 😳🥺😴 where if you aren’t CHAD, it’s over 💯💯 this is what you served for 😳🤣🇺🇸

I’m shredded 💪🏾 but shorter than you 🥺😳😳 and not even white 🥺🙋🏼‍♂️💁🏽‍♀️ but I can get dates off OF online dating 😳 because I maximized my profile 💯

You need to maximize your profile and use photoshop 📷 and hire a professional photographer 😳 it’s 100% about the photos 😳

Look at justin Marc, he is a 5’3 Indian man 👨🏾 who slays on Tinder because he maximized his fashion and photos 🤭

So, get PROFESIONNAL photos, photoshop them, get shredded, get fashion, and USE BOOST 💯💯 and you will do just fine 👌👌

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-11-04T10:01:16+00:00

195 pounds is way too much to get looks or to get people sexually attracted to you.

You are overweight for your height, so you just need to keep working out and avoid all carbs until you get thin at the very least.

Radio_Unique · 2021-11-04T17:38:02+00:00

Make urself healthy for urself not for others

Women chasing you is just a result of u taking care of urself

AelfredRex · 2021-11-04T20:30:11+00:00

Desperation is unattractive. So you need to get control of yourself, stop thinking you need sex, and start just enjoying being in the presence of women when you are. When you're desperate, they get bad vibes. When you're chill and sex is thought of as an incidental luxury, they'll be more comfortable in your presence.

Title	I just don’t get it
Author	jimmybobboy
Upvotes	1
Comments	28
Date	November 4, 2021 3:13 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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