I like being alone way too much

YSLMangoManiac · 2024-02-11T04:38:58+00:00

Shoots self in foot then wonders why his foots bleeding and he’s short a few bullets

How will you ever know if you like someone if you can’t even stand to get dinner with them?

I’m of the opinion that getting a date is the hard part once you show up the rest is just formality that you know how to behave in public and that you’re not weird. Just go on the dates you set up and don’t cancel

FlynnRideHer1 · 2024-02-11T05:32:12+00:00

Pick something that's less fancy and lower pressure, like an afternoon coffee shop date

gothbaddiewtf · 2024-02-11T12:35:03+00:00

bro you are literally me no joke,i have never been on a ''date'' too,i simply hate it,but i have no problem pulling on partys or festivals

Dandys3107 · 2024-02-11T12:45:33+00:00

Dates should be viewed more like just a background and platform for escalation. Your activities, money and time spent, conversations really mean nothing by themselves. It's like some kind of warmup and social code. Your real game is about getting intimate with a girl. Pay your full attention to that. You can set up the rest however you want or even skip it if you can.

KgCeltics33 · 2024-02-11T14:03:36+00:00

Man I was with u up until u said the reason u cancel dates is anxiety. I completely agree that I like being single and love my alone time. It's just so freeing and I can devote my time to more productive things that I wouldn't otherwise b doing in a relationship. I'd have to sacrifice time from my hobbies and interests and that sounds terrible.

That being said if u rlly do pull that well with ur game there's no need to b nervous at all becuz the outcome of the date doesn't matter. Plenty of fish in the sea and even if u fumble and lose the fuck it's not the end of the world. Y'all gotta learn how to take an L and keep it pushing.

SF_Inner_Game_Coach · 2024-02-11T21:31:02+00:00

Uh...

That is NOT how you let go of anxiety. This is what all the PUA's get wrong. You don't magically get rid of deep rooted anxiety by trying to "desensitize" yourself with more dates.

If you want to genuinely improve your relationships and form real connections, you don't do it by isolating yourself (which is what you're doing, inadvertently).

Start by feeling your anxiety fully. What are you afraid of? Or better yet, what are you avoiding? Go three why's deep.

I'd also explore why you feel the "need to be seen regularly taking out girls". Why's that important to you? Why does it matter at all?

The truth will set you free.

Title	I like being alone way too much
Author	Point-Overall
Upvotes	15
Comments	8
Date	February 11, 2024 3:32 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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