I need to approach

Global-Bridge-6787 · 2021-12-11T09:03:41+00:00

Dude you’re incredibly lucky that you get approached like that. Most dudes don’t have that luxury.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2021-12-11T18:02:50+00:00

Shy? Afraid of rejection? Of making a fool of yourself in front of her or other people? Worried about what will people think?

The problem lies in your ego, your fear of what others might think of you, and how others will value you.

You are worried of doing something that others would consider weird, or worried making a fool of yourself and being laugh at, or getting a bad reaction from women.

All of that comes down to the same problem, which is that you want to protect your ego.

Your ego is like an invisible monster living inside your head, i like to picture it as Gollum from lord of the rings.

Your ego, or your Gollum is always whispering in your ear and controlling your behaviour. Your ego makes you act in ways that won’t cause damage to him.

Hence why you freeze, it is your ego that makes you freeze because it’s controlling you. Gollum is controlling you and you are his main ally.

The thing you need to understand about Gollum (your ego) is that he is not your friend. He is your main enemy.

And yes it’s all in your head, but you need to be aware of your enemies in order to realise you have to defeat them.

The key thing here is, that your ego is worried about protecting your image, or your sense of pride or sense of value. He wants to look cool, attractive, wants to fit in with other cool people, and not be perceived as inferior to others… The problem is that this needs are all bullshit and actually damage your life.

Ego just wants you to take yourself too seriously, he can’t allow you to have fun, he can’t allow you to laugh at yourself, all he is worried is that you fit in with the cool people or to be seen as valuable person that others value.

Therefore rejection is your ego’s worst fear because that goes against his needs of gaining people’s approval.

You need to choose to not attend to his needs, you need to choose to not give a fuck about protecting your image, you need to just say fuck you Gollum, i don’t care about appearing cool… You are, but not me. Because i prefer to laugh at myself and take myself less seriously.

Saying hi how are you to random women won’t work until you choose to be ok with rejection, until you choose to be ok with the fact that some girls won’t like you and that some girls might even think you are weird for talking to them or be disgusted by your attempts at interacting with them, and that’s ok.

That the world goes on, your life goes on and nobody will care months from now about that time you got rejected in a cruel manner. You yourself won’t even feel pain years from now, because pain is temporary.

Heck if you learn to just take yourself less seriously you won’t even feel pain if a rejection happens.

I do get rejected sometimes and i just congratulate the woman for her creativity in rejecting me, because i just don’t choose to take it personal.

Her rejection enters my ear and leaves through the other ear. I don’t let it affect me and I don’t see her rejection as something that defines my worth or who I am, because it doesn’t.

Things can only affect you if you choose to take them personal.

Every time someone rejects me I celebrate it, because it means my ego just took a huge beat, and that’s a step further to get rid of his influence, because a defeated ego teaches me to be humble and when you are humble nothing can affect you.

AelfredRex · 2021-12-11T18:38:32+00:00

So if women are hitting on you, why are you complaining? You're a "wanted man". That is the ideal.

2021-12-11T15:35:03+00:00

I was recently where you are now. Go out every day with the intention to approach. Even if you just walk around.

At some point you will reach the breaking point and say "fuck it, let's see what happens".

Ohmyyikess · 2021-12-12T10:38:14+00:00

That’s ok. Do you find them attractive? Is you would actually like to talk to the girls who approach you take a deep breath and exhale. Oxygen helps the frontal cortex function. This takes time and practice just like anything.

Title	I need to approach
Author	Bakerz420_
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	December 11, 2021 8:38 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/rdvi5h/i_need_to_approach/
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