I'm in a downward spiral.

allnose · 2014-12-05T14:19:40+00:00

Relax. Take an hour or two, put on some music that calms you down, and just try to rearrange your mind. Try meditating, even.

You've got some problems, but it's nothing insurmountable. After you've taken the time to relax, come up with an action plan. Pick out one problem. What can you do right now to fix it? What do you have to do tomorrow? What steps are you going to take after that? Write it down and be specific. Break the problem down and it won't seem so intimidating.

Don't worry so much about going out and attracting women. What's most important is getting your confidence and self-worth up. If you can find a job, any sort of job, it'll at least get you out of the house and feel like you've accomplished something at the end of the day. If you can find a group that does something you're interested in, consider joining. Make plans with people you feel comfortable around, doing something you want to do. It's amazing how much forcing myself to go to a friend's place and chill with a few people can improve my mood and general outlook. Feel good about yourself and that will make improving the rest of your life easier.

But first you have to relieve yourself of some of that pressure. When you feel stressed, just take the time to relax yourself. It's not wasting time, people are way more efficient when they're thinking clearly and calmly.

sep11insidejob · 2014-12-05T16:08:48+00:00

Vitamin D, Omega3, greens. That should give you the boost you need to go on strong bud.

maxtheman45 · 2014-12-05T16:42:31+00:00

Make sure you're sleeping enough, eating healthy and nutritious foods, and go for a run or bike ride. Also writing about your emotions or painting will be cathartic.

baguette180 · 2014-12-05T22:56:51+00:00

Iv had to deel with this a lot, Im pretty good at nipping it in the bud now

First and foremost stup doing the things that make you feel like shit

Things to fix:

Sleep. get enough sleep, but don't get too much
don't lay in bed for a long time before you get up.
don't lay in bead all day. stay our of your bead till you go to sleep
caffein: It affects different ppl differently, experiment with taking less/ cutting it out or taking more.
maybe quit Adoral, For me it made me feel really good when i first took it, but now it makes me feel horrible, most people don't have that happen to them but some do.
Don't procrastinate! Either do to or blow it off, but hanging in limbo makes you really feel like shit. (this is one of the biggest ones)
don't watch negative Media, The walking dead is awesome but if your in a downward spiral it is not helping you.
dont eat like shit, (eating lots of carbs makes you crave even more carbs)
do stay home all day. it can be really heard to think of things to do but just going to the grocery store and riding the bike can really make a difference.
don't have caffein late, even if you don't have trouble falling asleep, it is lowering the quality of your sleep.

There are also things you can start doing to help lift your self up and feel better.

Things to do:

EXERCISE!!! If you want to be a properly functioning human being you have to exercise.
Get out of the house. go to the store, go to the gym, ride your bike.
get vitamin D
get fresh air, being inside can make you fell even more groggy.
sweat, sometime sweating a lot makes you feel much better.
Drink water. a lot of the time feeling shitty is from you body being dehydrated and not being able to function at full capacity.
watch funny stuff or action. Comedies help your mood a lot, and action movies can get your blood pumping and make you excited (just make sure it is not dark)
eat better. more vegetables and meet and fewer carbs. try to make grains (bread, rice, pasta, noodles, beans) NOT be the foundation go your diet. and don't eat much sugar either.
socialize
you can experiment with cold showers in the morning, some people find them to be beneficial (If i take them before i go to sleep i have a heard time sleeping.)

I hope this helps.

FeministsLoveMe · 2014-12-05T19:02:59+00:00

I have a simple question that might help you out.

When is the last time you went to bed early and got up in the morning?

For me, when times are bad I simply just go to bed early, force myself in my bed no electronics even near me, and close me eyes and try and sleep. I wake up earlier in the morning, and with no distractions around me (computer, phone, etc.) I get out of bed and start the day with momentum, a momentum that carries me through that morning, through that lunch, through the evening, makes me sleep reasonably early, and gives me momentum throughout the whole damn week, which can turn into a month or even a year.

You need to give yourself momentum my friend, and sometimes having a coffee/orange juice early in the morning with all the old folk and businessmen in a coffee shop gives me the perspective I need to get back into the grind.

PM me if you want to chat more buddy I struggled a lot with "spiraling" during college years.

redrogue12 · 2014-12-05T16:47:43+00:00

Hey man I read a great book called Spark. I forgot the author but I can find it if you want. Basically aerobic excercise, specially running, can help put your ADD in check and also you liberate hormones that help with depression. It is really the most natural, effective and cheapest way for you to get yourself under control. Just go out and run!

trail22 · 2014-12-05T22:20:52+00:00

Allow yourself to feel bad. Don't try to control your emotions. Your emotions need to run their course.

Also force yourself to exercise, spend time with positive friends, and generally when at all possible avoid the places where you feel worse like your bed or room.

But mostly don't fight or try to rationalize your feelings. Let them run their course and try to understand (which is very hard) all you need is a little time to let yourself feel bad. You cannot force it.

sel_garytek · 2014-12-05T14:48:08+00:00

Marijuana.

Title	I'm in a downward spiral.
Author	Luckyluke23
Upvotes	8
Comments	29
Date	December 5, 2014 1:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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