I'm not the super interesting or charismatic type. Will I just be a virgin forever?

farazormal · 2017-05-15T08:00:28+00:00

Honestly, If you keep thinking this way. Probably.

Your mentality is toxic and detrimental to any self improvement. You need to think more positive things about yourself because at the moment your biggest issue is low self esteem.

And hey, guess what? Losing your virginity won't change that. Having sex isn't some magic fix all for all your problems, you won't instantly become a confident and less insecure person overnight, even if you do manage to manage to hide your crippling issues from a girl long enough to have sex with her. You'll probably just become over attached and scare her off because you need her validation to feel good enough.

You need to know that you are good enough and what anyone else thinks doesn't matter.

SyrusDrake · 2017-05-15T07:22:36+00:00

I can relate. When I say I'm not interesting, people will tell me to find interesting hobbies. But the thing is, I find the stuff I do interesting, it's just that nobody else does...

Sad_Sleeper · 2017-05-15T09:45:49+00:00

Try these tips they helped me ALOT! Start going to the gym 3 times a week. Lift some weight man, this will build your confidence and you will overall be more happy. It will improve your body and mentality. Try reducing the porn. I tried nofap for 3-4 months. It worked wonders for me. It improved my overall confidence. Now i am completly different person. Find some people to go out and have fun with.

Don't get too much into the virginity thing. I am 25 and virgin. Last I had my first kiss. Now i just have fun and don't care that much about it. Girls like me, i know it so i keep trying and improving myself and things are happening. Just Be Patient !!! This is the key to success.

savagegrapefruit · 2017-05-15T14:13:44+00:00

You are what you tell yourself you are. If you told yourself I am social and went and socialized everyday I'm sure you'd understand the paradox.

Turlast · 2017-05-15T14:53:06+00:00

You're putting too much pressure on yourself. When you do that, it's easy for you to jump to conclusions about yourself--no matter how inaccurate. Just go out and talk to women, man. You determine your success and failures.

MonkeyFist4150 · 2017-05-16T01:01:21+00:00

Work on your self-esteem first.

Title	I'm not the super interesting or charismatic type. Will I just be a virgin forever?
Author	appypollylogiess
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Comments	11
Date	May 15, 2017 6:42 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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