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[–]panda_bro 8 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link
The best way is to meet the girl in person, ask her for her account, and make some reference to an inside joke you guys developed in person.
Randomly finding women on Instagram, DMing them with no foundation between you two, and simply saying "hello" is very creepy.
Just about every decent looking girl I've been with has loads of guys DMing them "hey what's up?" over and over and over. Don't be that guy.
[+]Swayeh -13 points-12 points-11 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Get what you are saying but im too shy to go to a women and talking to them. I saw 2 at a bar and my heart was pumping and I didnt talk to them.
[–]panda_bro 8 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
Nervously walking up to a women in public, and actually physically talking to her, is a hundred times more effective than a comfortable text message.
Texting will get you nowhere in seduction. Even if you already have a rapport with a women. You need physical touch and a dash of quick wit to seduce a women and build attraction.
[–]Swayeh 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ok. I am going to go out Monday and try it. Thank you. But theres always an excuse that stops me
[–]xdeadpoolx1998 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I believe in you dawggg
[+]Swayeh -6 points-5 points-4 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks, problem is Birtish girls are more stuck up than every where else haha (im from the UK)
[–]struckbyeviil 10 points11 points12 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Those are just excuses bro. Girls are girls. There are people whom travel the world and game everywhere. Don't listen to your excuses
[–]Swayeh 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah my brain us just trying to find the easy way out haha.
[–]thepickup27 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
haha the title is hilarious! but seriously real life is so much better. Watch what girls do, not what they say. There are always those emotions that you can't tap into through messages. Gotta approach a girl a day.
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah haha I agree, only reason I was doing it was the lack of confidence. Im going to go out Monday solo to try and attempt to do day game. My aim is to Approach at least one girl. And if not then just make eye contact and smile etc.
[–]Jack__Knife 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
So many times I've seen this question. And most times it's because you caught a glimpse of the girl in a class, at work, at a bar/club and choked when you had her right in front of your eyes. So then you take the cowardly route and try a mousy 'hey' or 'what's up' on social media......just like all the other mice. Meet more women IRL and I guarantee the answer to this question will be nullified. If it's a girl on social media you have little chance of ever meeting IRL, then why not be bold? If she responds positively great. If she doesn't ...no loss.
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, I see where you are coming from. And sometimes thats the case. But I just cant seem to get the courage to get over AA. I really wish I could im going out Monday and im going to attempt to approach someone.
[–]Jack__Knife 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Your priorities are all screwed up is where you struggle. Are you going out with the specific intention of sleeping with a girl? Or do you go out with no real plan or agenda? Try a night out just meeting people, having a lot of fun and maybe end up with a fun girl that wants to fuck. Having fun and being a fun person is what leads to sex, not the other way around. Don't be outcome dependent.
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well im still a virgin at 18. But my aim is to get a girlfriend not to sleep with strangers tbh. Although the thought has crossed my mind to get some secual expeirience. But i feel like getting a girlfriend is easier than finding someone to sleep with. And everytime i go out its not purley to pick up girls. Which is probably my problem. Im going out Monday purley for that reason and see if I can even speak to a girl.
[–]Jack__Knife 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
But my aim is to get a girlfriend not to sleep with strangers
To get a girlfriend you gotta sleep with a stranger. Because in reality you don't really know her until you do.
see if I can even speak to a girl.
Of course you can. They ain't sea monsters trying to bite your dick off. They'r people with the same struggles as you. Shyness, body odor, diarrhea.
Here's their secret though, they want you to do naughty things to them, as much or more than you want to do to them.
So there's no reason to be nervous right?
What venue are you going to?
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not sure how to use a quote im a noob to reddit😖, but anyway well the plan is to get a few numbers off some women and date them and then like after a few dates then sleep with them. I think it will be hard to sleep with a girl when meeting them for the first time. Plus i havent even been to a club as much as I want to my friends never want to go.
And true always thought girls wernt mad for sex etc until i seen something that said girls get hornier than guys but are better at hiding it aparaently. (Idk if its true) and as much as I think of what you say I cant seem to get over it idk why.
And just into town to try day game. Its quite busy up there. Only problem is its full of like asians and they arent quite my cup of tea. (No racism intended sorry if I offended.) But im not sure if its worth paying the travel cost if I probably will pussy out of talking to a girl.
[–]Jack__Knife 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But im not sure if its worth paying the travel cost if I probably will pussy out of talking to a girl.
Give your boy $20 to hold. If you pussy out he keeps it.
Don't worry abut rejection, enjoy it. Every rejection is one step closer to the girl you get to fuck.
Be clear in your mind, every girl you approach, could be the girl that was waiting for you. If you pussy out, you'd let her down.
Im going solo. All my friends know my brother and will tell him then he will tell family and things start to get awkward. But ill try and find something else to do. And very true. I once saw my mate approach a girl she was like a 9/10 and we are average looking he got her number and made it clear she was intrested in him. And yeah ill yell myself that Mondah.
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
What if it's a girl from a dating site who puts it up there for no reason?
[–]Jack__Knife 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
What if the pigeons ate all your crackers while you were asleep on the park bench?
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I'll legit copy and paste ones like these if it works. Do you have others for dating sites?
[–]Jack__Knife 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Paste what? Do you eat paste?
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Talking about copying messages that could work on dating sites do you have any
Dating sites? Not social media, sure. Lines the get a good responce rate?
[–]Zoidberg22 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. You have any?
[–]Prerogativ 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💀
[–]Valor0us 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have actually used Instagram quite a bit. I'm big into yoga and will end up having girls follow me because their friend mentions me or I come up in conversation. Here are some ways I open via dm with girls I've never met https://imgur.com/a/GXU4m .
I just try to connect with them on something they enjoy and usually within 10 message exchanges I have a number and a date set up. Not guaranteed to work, but if your life looks interesting on insta then girls will be into that. Good luck!
[–]KawnN 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
it best works when you dm them after some time they like your picture and follow you, and you know she is real girl not some random guy acting as a girl or instagram robot.
[–]immenseimme 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Instagram Game
Just don't, unless you're 15 or something...
[–]Swayeh 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Works for tons of people including my friend. Had a couple.of numbers off girls from there aswell
[–]immenseimme 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Of course it works to some degree; you literally have nothing to lose, no effort, dedication, risk-taking in any way is required. But the flake rate will turn out accordingly.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
In no circumstance would I ever recommend dm'ing a girl on Instagram. Of all the white knights that dm her throughout the day you're not going to stand out unless your SMV is extremely high. You also could have a higher SMV than her (in real life), but that's not going to make a bit of difference if you don't have as many or more followers than her (highly unlikely for most guys to have). You also have to take into account her self-inflated SMV simply by her just being online.
[–]PreFrontalClarity 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
Instagram game? that sounds ridiculous. IG is where girls go to showcase themselves.. they're not looking to engage thirstbuckets.. you either have to be super popular on IG or have hella crazy pics of you doing hella cool shit, or luxury shit for her to be interested
Girls have different mindset base don every app they use. snapchat is one mindset, ig is another, tinder is another.. women are weak like that. They adjust to a frame , to context, to situational shit..
[–]Valor0us 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
I'd say I meet more high quality women on IG in comparison to tinder. If your IG isn't showing you doing interesting things then you're not interesting. You sound like someone who isn't pulling girls via social media or otherwise.
[–]PreFrontalClarity 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
I think it's just that my perspective is different. I'm superficial in the women I approach.. having dated your typical "Ig model" types.. Just not having pulled them from IG. It's really difficult to get across to alot of the women on IG who think they are stars in their own right. I never thought about IG as a place to cold contact women. Now, if theres chicks who are commenting on my stuff, that makes it alot easier.
As far as your last comment.. Not sure where you get that or if you're trying to insult me. It's cool though man, I have no problem getting women. I don't look toward IG or Facebook to get women so.. if that's your idea of someone whos not pulling girls, so be it. I just never needed to really use those venues. I feel its much simpler to meet girls at settings where you can pull girls face to face.
[–]Valor0us 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
In both your comments you are taking one type of woman and pasting that mindset on every girl in the same situation. There are smoking hot girls out there that aren't IG models and have a couple hundred followers that will gladly talk to and meet with an interesting looking guy on IG.
You saying all women think the same way when they're on tinder or when they're on IG is just ignorant. Every woman is different. Just like you can have a mediocre looking girl be confident to ask for your number at the bar you can also have a total babe who is honored that you'd want to take her out. With your mindset of not thinking that an avenue like this is useful in meeting women just surprises me.
If a cute girl is friends with your friend or just randomly follows you on IG, why not message her and/or follow her? Why not take that few seconds to get great results? To each their own of course, but like I said, I've had some amazing results on IG. You could be missing out.
[–]PreFrontalClarity 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
You're absolutely right... but however, I assumed OP meant DMing girls he doesn't know and who haven't had interactions or mutual friends with him..
When I heard Instagram game and what OP said, I assumed basically he meant like the conventional approach game but on Instagram. I personally wouldn't waste my time in that aspect..
But as far as girls who comment on my stuff, or that I may have some connection to or am involved in similar culture (ie: fitness, jeep wrangler culture, edm, etc) maybe... but i find it easier to engage with them once again, publicly.
But now that I get what you are saying, you can pretty much approach girls on any outlet really.. I remember picking up girls off of meetup.. which is a website for finding group activities and cool stuff to do within the city.
I think i also jumped the gun on this.. just because it's something I don't do personally.. I don't do much social media to begin with though. I'm more of a twitter/snapchat only guy. I don't even do facebook these days... It's just not my thing
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Yeah it is not as bad as you think... Ariana Grande met her first boyfriend through twitter and then cheated on him either way... The first ever and only girl I met up with i got to know through snapchat and she didnt even know me...
[–]PreFrontalClarity 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
That's pretty cool. However, i've had girls tell me the reason they set me apart from other guys is because all other guys they met were through social media.. That's why I think the approach game is the best but I can never knock the social media game or app game because that's actually where I started. Just never did IG, twitter or FB to meet women that I didn't know.. However, I did use various other apps like Tagged, OKC, POF.
I may give it a shot in the future :) Thanks for the insight.
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Haha thats all ive been doing since of AA. I think im fine with talking to girls in genreal its just intiating the conversation. I had a mates girlfriend come over and talk to me I had no problem talking etc. So its just the initial approach I can't do. Going into town Monday and hoping I can overcome it. I don't want to end up as like a 21 yr old virgin. Thats the one thing im scared of.
[–]PreFrontalClarity 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Hey man, being a virgin should be even more incentive to do it! Put it this way man.. approach is kinda like being a novice at basketball and only shooting baskets with your friend or brother.. who you're comfortable with..a nd then being put in a situation where you want to play at a court but theres a buncha strangers and they want to play a pickup game.. the first pickup game you will feel nervous as shit, because you know you're the weak player and everyone else plays there regularly.. but after doing it, it gets better and better and eventually you have alot of fun doing it and get good at it :P
[–]Swayeh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah haha good way of putting it. I feel like if I had someone with me encouraging me I would go do it. But like all my friends arent like that haha and I can't find any people who'd help me out. I don't think game is that popular in the UK.
[–]PreFrontalClarity2 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
That's a major part of it man. Having someone who you're close to with you.. it helps your confidence greatly and makes it easy to rebound from bad experiences because you can easily joke about it with your m8
[–]Swayeh1 point 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
True but no one will come with me
[–]PreFrontalClarity1 point 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
You are fully capable of both doing it on your own and also finding someone who's willing to go out there with you
Does tagged work?
Whats that?
[–]PreFrontalClarity 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Was insanely popular before. I had alot of success with it. Not sure if anyone uses it these days
[–]Valor0us 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I didn't mean to come off as hostile. It just really seemed like your initial comment was putting OP down for thinking that IG could be an avenue for meeting some girls and that's a bummer to see on this subreddit.
[–]PreFrontalClarity 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I see where you're coming from. Its no problem. Definitely gained some insight from our convo.
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