Is there a dancing guide? I haven't been able to find one and r/dance didn't have what I was looking for

zhantoo · 2017-04-15T16:49:43+00:00

I often get compliments for my dance. In my opinion, it's more because that the standard is pretty low, and not because I'm good.

But I'm going to give you a few pointers based on my experience. Take them all with a grain of salt - my guess is that the moves I mention will be received different depending on the culture of the country you're in.

If you're dancing alone/with your wing, and you want someone's attention. Then you gotta be more wild/crazy and take op more space relative to how loud there is, and how crowded the dance floor is.

So, if you go out to a completely empty dance floor, on a bar, just do some slow dancing. If it's a crowded dance floor on a club, do the crazy dance.

As for "dance moves". When dancing with a girl, in 80% of the encounters you have, the one where you take her hand, and spin her around, pushes her backwards, pulls her back in, leans her back while holding her etc. Will be enough to make her think your a really great dancer. You can also when holding both her hands, do a spin where you both spin simultaneously. Girl really dig that. After doing a few rounds of that, pull her in, and stand close. That one, where you have one hand around each other, and the other one, you're holding hands, and have your arms out to the side.

That was the serious dancing part.

I like to sometimes try and dance like a woman. Most girls love it. Pretend you hot boobs and shake them. Take her head, and pull it down to your chest and shake. Do the "how low can you go". Grind on her, with your ass on her vayjayjay. Do the one where you raise your arm, and push them backwards, while moving your chest forward. Etc. Etc. A lot of the times the girls will see you dance like this, and mimik it, try to compete with you.

But otherwise just improvise, follow the music, and look stupid. Very stupid. Make it obvious that you don't look stupid, because you can't dance, and don't know, but because you don't care.

Also, try and switch it up. When you get the girls attention, and they try to compete, then just switch it up to some lame slow dancing, that doesn't fit the music, and is 100% opposite to what everyone else is doing. That will show that your not doing it to be better than the them, and that you wont compete/prove yourself. They will often switch to whatever dance you switch to.

I will try and make some video examples of it one day.

repking69 · 2017-04-15T15:49:09+00:00

Just take dance classes man. They're not gonna have you dress up in a tutu and you won't be the only straight male

nomames_bro · 2017-04-15T17:01:03+00:00

learn to enjoy dancing by yourself and not giving a fuck about what anyone else thinks of you...showing your targets you enjoy dancing w/o having to constantly rub your dick on someone is really attractive and a great way to get positive attention before you've opened your mouth. as for dancing just don't flail around spasticly/wildly. practice at home to music you commonly hear at the places you like to go, it's 10x easier to dance in rhythm to a song you know well vs one you're hearing for the first time.

once you figure out how not to give a fuck and have fun dancing everything else will fall in place.

to learn all this in under 3 nights go to an electronic music festival on a beach somewhere and eat as much mdma as you can get your hands on.not joking.

shlver · 2017-04-15T19:53:33+00:00

Go take some latin dancing classes. If you vibe with a girl enough, then you should know when to move on. Grooving to the music is much better than dancing to impress a girl. People can tell. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=59dcBlXNenQ Watch this.

iamthewinner · 2017-04-15T17:43:18+00:00

Do what your body feels

Dmoh34 · 2017-04-15T20:34:56+00:00

Learning how to count beats will help alot. As long as you are "on beat" you can pretty much do whatever and it will look fine. Just YouTube some choreography practices and you will get the idea.

doobai92 · 2017-04-16T03:25:47+00:00

IMO just go out there and have fun, if you appear like you're having fun with your dancing then people will be attracted to your aura. Eventually you get more comfortable with your dancing so it flows better, then it just escalates from there.

Woujo · 2017-04-16T12:40:55+00:00

Don't dance to impress girls. Dance because you want to.

purplem00se · 2017-04-16T13:36:16+00:00

Grab a beer. Post up at the edge of the dance floor. Scan the dance floor with your eyes. Keep an eye out for girls who lock eyes with you. Give a half smile. If she smiles back, give a nod and move in. Keep your body moving to the beat. The rest is just a play of body language to the beat. If you both are feeling it, it will be smooth and rythmatic, you won't be in your head, you both will be in the moment vibin.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-04-16T15:05:56+00:00

_____1: Educate thy self______

Specifically clubs and partner dancing. What kind of moves should I use

Pick a dance and take classes. No way around it. There is a wide misconception that dancing is a talent. It really isn't: it's a skill that you can easily build with a little work. We see men as terrible at dancing and women as terrible at sports or video games, when what's really true is that most women take some sort of ballet or dance class at young ages and most guys do some sort of baseball or football at a young age. So both sides get an advantage that shows up in PE class for men when sports are played, and later at clubs for women.

Anyone can gain a good amount of ability with study and work. It's helpful to think of dancing as a nonverbal language, and a very useful one.

The trick is picking a dance you like.

Hip-hop dance classes cover "vocabulary" that you could use at any club or rave. Taking classes in this is pretty damn helpful.
Partner dances like Salsa, Argentine tango, Lindy hop, West coast swing, etc. are all good at building awareness of the women you're interacting with, which is great for things like kino. It boils down to what kind of music or social vibe you like. You can only really know by sampling classes.

_______2: There's no strict formula for much of this______

How long should I dance with a girl for before moving onto something else?

There's no One-Size-Fits-All answer here and approaching it with such attitude will hurt your chances, because dancing is a fun activity but bringing these kinds of agendas into it, will kill the fun with your expectations.

Instead, it's better to adopt an attitude of dancing with the WHOLE dance floor and everyone in it.

Low-hanging fruit: Goof off with guys; fist bump, cheers them if you have a drink, high five, cheer on a guy who's doing something cool, help pump up the state of the whole floor.
Play with anyone, men or women; copy things you see people doing if they're funny or fun.
Find a place to post up as your place on the dancefloor. Your starting point. It's better to do this than to turn into the guy who's moving from place to place on the floor from girl to girl. If you handle your own fun well enough, girls will come to you. Of course, keep things fresh by heading off to get a re-fill on a drink or move over to a place where a lot of fun is happening.
You ought to be smiling but finding a way to do so authentically instead of forcing a smile, is VITAL. Focusing on the ridiculousness and the fun in everything going on around you, is helpful in this.
Scan for eye contact with anyone. Smile at guys and girls. When you make eye contact with a girl, the response will tell you much. Looking away and down is often a good sign, looking away and up is often bad, meeting eye contact with a smile is often pretty good, etc.

___3: Re: eye contact_____

How much is too much eye contact?

Where should I look if we are literally face to face?

This is vague, but......

Don't go for the death stare. You ought to be making eye contact, but if you're close, you can do the Triangle (look from eye, to eye, to mouth, rinse and repeat).
If you are literally in a girl's grill, you shouldn't be unless it's already going well and she's pretty much green-lit you to get that close without her scurrying off. You should also be scanning the crowd to keep tabs on where and how other people are flailing around you. It shouldn't ever be a case where you lose sight of what's going on around you. Well, not unless things escalate a little on the dance floor. But even then, it's usually better to build the tension up a little by NOT going for it too hard on the dance floor. (Save it for later when you leave together.)

GoRedBad · 2017-04-15T19:58:34+00:00

I agree with u/nomames_bro, except for the drugs part.

I went to a dance lesson about twelve years ago and it was interesting because there was an amazing ratio, but I was crippled by shyness.

Lately I decided to just go out dancing, alone, sober, and not care who stares or what they think. What I found was that if you do ANY sort of rhythmic dancing that isn't the tired conservative movements of every guy in the club, you get a lot of women approaching you. I just move to the rhythm and just let moves come into my head, based on whatever thoughts I have about random shit.

For example, I remembered doing military-style drill when I was in a boy's club as a teenager, so I started marching and presenting arms to the beat. Then I imagined I was Superman and put my hands up like I was going to take off flying. Then I thought it would be funny to bend my knees like sitting on a toilet and pull an imaginary flush chain from the air to punctuate a moment :)

123choji · 2017-04-15T15:31:51+00:00

Start dancing to any song and it'll just come to you basically have fun dancing

cuntcumia · 2017-04-15T20:35:03+00:00

horrible advice here so far. good news, i am here to help you out. this video changed my life, do it in a club and you will make out with girls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHG6YVaLIFQ

COOKIEDD · 2017-04-16T05:09:01+00:00

https://youtu.be/RFG1cQS58PQ

Title	Is there a dancing guide? I haven't been able to find one and r/dance didn't have what I was looking for
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Date	April 15, 2017 3:11 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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