Is this all it takes?

lntoTheSky · 2015-04-06T22:32:41+00:00

ya, direct game is the best. You're going to get "rejected" more, and a lot faster, but I personally believe that anyone who immediately rejects from direct game would have let you down eventually anyway. It's also a lot easier and more fulfilling.

2015-04-06T18:07:08+00:00

Being direct in a nightclub usually goes something like "I like that dress, the hair too.". Or its after IOIing each other then I'll walk up and say something "So, what's up with you?". Key with that is that I'm looking at her very frankly and sexual.
You shouldn't need a ton of game with you're attitude (seems good, full of desire and unapologetic). If you're in a good state, you can be on autopilot, and have a more natural vibe. But game still has a place because, there are more optimal things to say at some moments than others. Think critical moments, like when your introduced to a friend, or if she says she has a boyfriend, or when you want to leave. These are times when it's good to lean on game advice from here or wherever, along with your own past experiences.
You pretty much have direct game right. You would let her beauty and how horny you are because of it influence everything you do and say, and color the whole interaction. And you would be unapologetic that such desire in you exists. For the thing about how you're horny or want to kiss her, don't talk about that shit, act on it. If you're horny start dancing with her close. If you feel like kissing her while your dancing then kiss her. Let your desire flow through in actions and body language much more often than in your words.
It wouldn't work if you don't have healthy self esteem, a quick temper, a lack of social awareness, etc etc. Basically it won't work unless you're confident. Comfortable in your own skin.
You have to learn some pickup stuff because as I said before, there are just more optimal things to do in certain situations.
Simply being authentic and going out a lot, and not being unapologetic about your sexual desire is good. It is in fact the key, and those three things alone can get you laid. But if you want to increase the odds of each set turning into sex, then knowledge of various topics of game will do that. Pickup things, the advice all over here, will help you to know what to do at critical points, and to be more in control of where the interaction goes.

dougsherman · 2015-04-07T01:02:27+00:00

It's like working out. If you just go to the gym for an hour, 3-5 times a week, and put in a lot of effort, you will probably see some good results even if you don't really have any idea what you're doing(barring injuring yourself from lifting incorrectly or something). You'd probably see better results than someone who read about fitness and lifting plans on the internet all day and only went to the gym once a week(but did the "best"/most proven workout there is).

This stuff is similar. There is a huge amount of content created by people trying to make money, largely capitalizing on the people in the second group(those who are reading too much without applying it). There is a huge amount of advice that directly conflicts other advice(just like with workout advice), because a lot of the time you just need to go do something.

Now, you can obviously progress a lot faster by getting advice from others, learning from other peoples mistakes, etc., and you'll do better than if you were just doing it yourself, but you don't need to study it like you're in school.

If you go talk to a girl next weekend and tell her out of nowhere that she makes you horny, it might work and she might think it's weird as fuck and leave. But you'll learn from that mistake(if it is a mistake) and hopefully remember that next time.

Diece · 2015-04-06T17:42:31+00:00

short answer. no

long answer. when i get time

lordBobbo · 2015-04-06T19:16:53+00:00

I watched this yesterday and I think it's great. keep in mind, I'm a novice.

First of all, yes, you could go up to a girl on the dance floor like that (don't exchange names, makes it interesting) and see how it goes. So why wouldn't it work you say? Thing is, it will work eventually, that's the numbers game. After filtering through X amount un-receptive girls you'll find one that complies.

Simply being authentic and going out frequently works wonders. Though 95% of guys aren't. And we who are into pick-up were once these normal dudes. We practice pick-up because we build confidence and, most importantly, to better get to know the game. A naturally confident male won't have nearly the same success rate as us because we have this community where we develop our skills and learn from each other. Being authentic and the related principles apply to pick-up, but we expand upon it and reap the rewards.

Big_TX · 2015-04-06T23:36:12+00:00

Try reading/watching a compleat system instead of getting random peaces form all over the place.

You could watch Foundations or Pimp by RSD (idk how good they are) or you could read magic bullets or double your dating.

You want a direct game method.

Just pick one system until you get comfortable with it then look for new ideas to step your game up.

Models by Mark Manson is good. I helps improve mindsets. But it shits on the rest of the community with very convincing BS arguments. So if you read that one be wary of that.

jonnyhaldane · 2015-04-07T00:38:57+00:00

I am thinking of just walking up to a girl on the dancefloor, asking about her name, tell her why I went to talk to her (because she is attractive), and then just go from there.

Good luck with that one. Nothing will get you shut down faster in a club than initiating a rapport conversation - especially with a girl who is dancing. You might get lucky if the girl is into your looks, but your chances of success are low. But why don't you go and try it instead of writing posts about it?

Why wouldn't this work? And if it does, why does on have to "learn pickup"? Simply being authentic and going out a lot seems to be the key.

Because women don't make fucking sense - not in the way men see the world, anyway. Because there are a million other variables in a club that work against you. Because in a club you are 'just another drunk guy trying to get laid'.

Go try your technique out, see how it works and get back to us.

Title	Is this all it takes?
Author	fatsug
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	April 6, 2015 5:31 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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