We’ve been on like 8 dates, had insanely good sex to the point where she’s like “you’re better than all my exes.”

In the beginning, she was really into me. Would never let me pay for anything, would always say she really liked me, and talk about us going on trips in the future, and I’d play it cool for the most part. One of the red flags that stood out was that she’d always text me some sweet shit, and whenever I reciprocated, she’d disappear. I felt like I’d act a tad needy on certain dates, so whenever I did, I wouldn’t text her for like 2 days (might’ve made things worse). But last time i sensed she needed space; I gave it to her and she came to me.

She knows damn well I’m good with women and always acts playfully jealous. Like “oh, is that what your city girls prefer?” I’ll always deflect her shit test or reassure her. She said she doesn’t fully trust me because of this, despite me always showing interest.

But I just feel like I’m not connecting fully. Like she has some walls up. The guy that took her V broke her ribs, and she had a ltr relationship with a bipolar guy. Her parents didn’t have a great relationship. She looks very put together on the outside, is very independent; very high position at her sales job.

Look, I realize at the core, I may have put her on the pedestal a bit and have some neediness I’m working through. but it feels weird that she’s not meeting me halfway after 8 dates. Like I’m always initiating plans. She hasn’t missed a date with me yet, but there’re little things like her never returning my calls. She doesn’t really tell me about her day/week. I don’t overload her with messages or double text ever.

I know I know, yes it’s highly possible there’s another dude in the picture, yeah it’s possible my internal neediness pushed her away, but I’ve slept with almost 70 women, and she hits a lot of the typical “avoidant” traits of a few other girls I’ve dated. Anyone relate?