I've been in this community for awhile. I'm pretty well versed in the PUA orthodoxy and it's gone a long way towards helping me be more social in platonic ways.

Sexually, however, it's been a very different story. I live in a small town and I can't leave due to family obligations, so if I make a hardcore push towards sarging, I'm going to alienate every decent-looking woman in a 30 mile radius within a matter of weeks. There simply isn't enough volume here to accommodate the learning process. I'm lucky enough to be able to travel more than most people, and I try to make the best of those opportunities, but it's still very limiting to my progress.

Anyways, I mention all of this because there's a situation that keeps coming up and I want to share some advice on the subject. Single mothers love me. As small as this town is, there at least a handful of women I could screw tonight if I wanted to and there are a handful more that I could have screwed 6 months ago if I had responded to their flirtations.

That's not what I want, though. I know I'm an awesome parent. I know I'm an awesome provider. I'm not interested in women who want me for those reasons. But temptation is hard to resist. I have no trouble resisting the women with below average looks, but occasionally a decent-looking one shows interest and it's damn hard to resist the urges.

But what do you do when you know that you're not a good match with a woman? In a big city, you can fuck her and not worry about the blowback, but that doesn't fly in a small town. The campfire rule is extremely important in small social circles, so I can't lead a girl on if I know upfront she's not a personality match with me.

Whatever... I'm rambling now. That's my story. That's what I'm going through.

There's a big (wink, wink) part of me that wants to settle for women that matches up with me a little bit, but that's not good enough for me anymore. I know what's possible. I want more and I'm willing to put in the long, hard work to make it happen. Hopefully you found something useful in my words.