I've not been on a date in months because my texting game sucks and I blow it with women who show very clear signs of interest. What can I do?

Woujo · 2021-08-24T22:49:07+00:00

Women flake when you don't build a strong enough emotional connection with them. You need to spend time with them so they remember you.

gutterpossum69 · 2021-08-24T21:38:16+00:00

Best tip you will ever get. Voice notes. I've been so successful with them; no guy uses them so you stand out, and it give you an edge, an opportunity to showcase your vibrant personality.

selfieprovement · 2021-08-24T22:40:36+00:00

Okay I haven't been in the game for a while so take my advice with a grain of salt, but maybe when you ask for the second meetup, don't approach directly with "want to meet up" but approach indirectly with "(I am/me and my friends are) going to x/y/z, wanna come?"

I think that puts out less "commitment" vibes.

idanthology · 2021-08-24T21:22:05+00:00

Keep trying? You're doing great, it can be like a numbers game, maybe lucky no. 15 or so will turn out. At the very least you'll be learning more along the way, it's tough, but you won't get anywhere w/o the grind.

Mshalopd1 · 2021-08-25T13:55:58+00:00

Stop texting with them so much. Maybe have a short interaction, make a joke or two, and set up a date. Sometimes they will flake. Don't worry about getting friend zoned like in #11, just escalate with her next chance you get and she will either friend zone you or not. Girls sometimes say shit like that when they actually really into you. Just depends on the girl. The less you're worried about friend zone the less it will happen. The more we accept some people just won't be into us like that, the more fun we will be to be around and the more people will like us like that. We gotta stop putting so much pressure on every interaction.

Also bro you're hooking up with girls at the club and shit and they clearly find you attractive. You'll be fine. Stop texting them so much, set up dates instead, don't take it personally when someone flakes and escalate when you get the chance. If you got chicks sucking on your neck, you can get them to suck on other things too.

I'm saying all this to myself too cuz I do the same shit bro. But it really is simple.

prettydirtyboy · 2021-08-25T01:16:46+00:00

Can’t tell you how many times a simple phone call at night saved me from weeks of boring texting back and forth to get to know each other. If it’s not to plan something or the topic is genuinely interesting small talk texting is pointless.

ORIONFULL23 · 2021-08-24T22:00:43+00:00

After you match in tinder/bumble you need to get her number ASAP, woman always have many options and in dating apps its more evident

So your first step is to get her number , when you get her number (in the app or irl) dont text them the same day, wait one or two days to initiate a conversation, now in this step you should close the deal and ask them out, when she accepts the date, there's no need to text her anymore, if she give you an excuse, you're gonna continue with the conversation and ask her out again in a couple of days. After she gives you an excuse for the second time, you're gonna walk away

Remember less is more in texting. Don't spend weeks talking without asking out

dutchmastiffbeacon · 2021-08-25T01:43:37+00:00

I don't like texting/messaging and I assume the girl wants more than that anyway. If a date isn't set within 48 hours of the conversation starting, I move on. I personally try to avoid having messaging conversations. Texting just to set up an in person meeting.

str8rippin_xii · 2021-08-25T04:38:06+00:00

I fucking suck at texting. Girls I try to text, hate it and the conversation dies within weeks. Girls I barely reply to and sometimes just forget to answer or decide not to always text me the next day lol. Point here being, I suck but the ones I don’t text much might not get to chance to realize it.

MrSlippery92 · 2021-08-24T22:56:01+00:00

Can you post screenshots of specific convos so we can give better criticism?

actingasevan · 2021-08-24T23:29:54+00:00

I generally keep it short — shoot the shit a bit (online dating) and schedule something later in the week. I don’t tend to text much leading up to the day (outside of maybe confirming meeting up) and I’ve had success with that

Like I’ve set up successful dates after maybe 10 or so texts

Stujitsu2 · 2021-08-25T11:05:24+00:00

When you get number, wait 4-7 days to make contact.

Text her hey Jenny its Brian. When might you be available to grab a drink with me? Or, Are you available to have a drink with me on X day.

Great lets meet at X bar at 7pm. Here is the address. See you then!

Go to bar at 7pm ( or whatever the established time)

If you get stood up, you are now drinking at a bar ready to open more sets.

If you shut the fuck up and do nothing and exercise patience, and thus self control, it shows women you are not a clingy needy text thirsty bitch boy. Lol

Seriously the phone is the fucking enemy. Meeting in person is the way to go. You are just being her pen pal and that's best case scenario.

Title	I've not been on a date in months because my texting game sucks and I blow it with women who show very clear signs of interest. What can I do?
Author	StatisticianPublic86
Upvotes	37
Comments	12
Date	August 24, 2021 8:04 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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