''Just work on yourself and girls will come to you naturally.'' I've seen this kind of advice on this subreddit so many times and I can't help but wonder it only applies to certain people.

I have a full time job I love doing, I work out 4/5 times a week, I like reading and spirituality and I'm a pretty social guy. But I am also 5' 5'' (165cm), I have a decent body but my arms and legs are really skinny and I have small female-looking hands. I only grow a mustache and I look really young. I am 28 but some people thought me to be 20. Girls don't come to me naturally at all. I never had a girl come up to me with clear signs she was attracted to me in any situation. Maybe when you're tall and good looking, then yes I can see girls coming to you and with minimal game you'll get laid easily. Tinder or other dating apps never worked for me as well.

I lost my virginity at 26 with a girl I met during daygame and now two years later I didn't have any success at all despite approaching hundreds of girls during daygame and going out. I feel like I got really lucky and found a girl with limited sexual options because of her heavily burned skin.

I hate having this victim mentality and I want to believe your success with women is entirely up to you. But I just can't see it. I've improved so much in the last 5 years mentally and physically. I don't know what to improve anymore.