~ archived since 2018 ~

Keep bouncing between feeling attractive and like a nobody

[deleted]

October 30, 2017

88 upvotes

/r/seduction

Download the post

Want to save the post for offline use on your device? Choose one of the download options below:

PDF TXT EPUB

Post Information

Title	Keep bouncing between feeling attractive and like a nobody
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	88
Comments	28
Date	October 30, 2017 6:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/79pmw6/keep_bouncing_between_feeling_attractive_and_like/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/keep-bouncing-between-feeling-attractive-and-like.1436058 https://theredarchive.com/post/1436058

Comments

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

[–]kookhunter 5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]Dweebl 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]switchplease 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]switchplease 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]ternaryoperators 19 points20 points21 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Girls are immediately in three categories in relation to you: 1: Receptive 2: Neutral 3: Non-receptive

The receptive girls are the one's who are immediately showing you signs of interest or chasing you. You will come across these girls, just not as often as neutral or non-receptive ones.

The neutral girls are exactly that, neither for or against, but will allow you to approach and then polarize to receptive or non-receptive based on your actions. When you approach and start talking, if there is chemistry they will polarize to receptive. This is the concept of "hooking" - but you have to approach and get that ball rolling. You will know when she's hooked when she has those bambi eyes or is genuinely interacting back with you.

The non-receptive ones are the ones who, no matter what you do, just aren't interested. There's not much you can do about that.

But what you should be doing is going out and having fun, while at the same time interacting with as many girls as you can. You want to find the ones who are receptive or neutral, and the ones who are neutral, hook them to the point where they are receptive, and then just enjoy the process. The ones who are non-receptive just tell them it was great to meet them and move on.

I guess the point I'm trying to get at is that the majority of girls you interact with will be neutral, which explains why girls just don't approach you. They want you to approach them.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Listen to this guy, he knows what’s up. Because he understands how most girls think, as contrasted with how most guys think, when it comes to attraction. Men are much more reflexive and absolute in their attraction, and more of it is based on looks. Women’s attraction to men, on the other hand, is much more based on context and behavior, and is more fluid. And this is precisely why most will be neutral, or seem neutral, and why your approach is so essential.

In other words, you’re thinking about all this too much like a dude. Even your formulation of how attractive you are – based on the looks of the women who have liked you or haven’t – reflects this erroneous lens. You seem to think it’s as binary for women as it is for most men – would or would not fuck, determined immediately and more or less permanently. In reality it’s much more fluid for women, most are neutral, as it was said. For them it’s more a question of potential. You either have potential (not a hard no) or don’t (hard no).

You’ll never know that potential unless you approach them. And that approach can be refined to turn more potential yeses into definite yeses.

[–]Ruze_ 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]prolonely 8 points9 points10 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]kebabwhy 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]switchplease 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]PM_UR_TITTERS 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

[–]Alysaalysa 15 points16 points17 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–][deleted] 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]CleanWholesomePhun 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Sophisticated_Sloth 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]indecencies 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link