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[–]puaCurveBall 20 points21 points22 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Practice. You just aren't familiar with the situation.
Also, meditation. Focus on being present in the moment.
[–]HappyJerk 36 points37 points38 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Stop thinking you need to impress girls when you talk to them. Imagine they have to impress you.
[–]FuturePUA90 9 points10 points11 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Usually, if I'm able to work up the balls to approach; I just cruise with the conversation. If I get too nervous, I'd tell her! And with many chicks at once, I'd just go up say "okay, nobody move!" Then the first girl that gives me eye contact, I just go "you, come here, whats you're name?" It's landslide from there.
[–]Benstillerfagget3 points 12 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I'll work on that! Thanks for the advice, I really appreciate it.
[–]nosesandsight 9 points10 points11 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Backing up FuturePUA90 comment, there have been multiple conversation where I stall and then follow up with a:
'I only thought about what I was going to say up until this point, you gals are gonna have to help make this not awkward.' 'Ohh man it's actually harder than it seems to to walk up to random strangers and talk to them.'
As long as you say that kinda of stuff with a big shit eating grin, you're not gonna totally bomb out. Plus it helps you start seeing conversations as what they, just conversations.
[–]Sky-Might-fall 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The absolute best advice that has worked for me is to talk to everyone you see. Strike up conversations, it doesn't matter what they look like. It doesn't matter if they're girls. I doesn't even matter how old they are. You can tell how much easier it is to talk to girls after you have realized how easy it is to talk to just about anyone.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Damn, that's deep.
[–]WhateverDudeFuckIt 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's only awkward if you feel like it's awkward. Your body reacts to your thoughts, so if you think about a situation in the perspective that it's awkward, it will be awkward. I feel like girls can tell when you're anxious and it turns them off. But if you're calm and mellow and not afraid of letting things be, then things are usually alright. Women wanna see that you're stable and consistent. They're lives are hectic and emotional, so they don't want more instability.
Can't win every time, so don't be afraid of failure. Instead learn from it.
[–]kingcal 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Own the awkward. Bathe in it. Don't speak. Make the other person break the silence.
[–]aalewis____ 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
observe
[–]FlashGordonn 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you absolutely have nothing to say (and this should happen less frequently as you get more practice), just tell them you've run out of things to say. And then just laugh and move on to something completely random.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Practice. Also do some meditation!
Visualization beforehand works for me pretty well. Imagine yourself walking up, talking to a cute girl. Before you walk up, you can feel yourself get excited. You can feel yourself want to get up and talk to her. You can already tell that they are going to like you.
Also, you're fucking awesome. Just be yourself.
[–]Bodegaz 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm not that great at being social, but I rarely get awkward and I am really good at maintaining eye contact with men and women.
I was at school and bored/taking a break from assignment. I walked down the hall and saw a decently cute girl. I said "hello, how's it goin?". She replied "good" and gave me a weird look. I just stared at her, smiled, and said "you okay? *lol". She laughed and started telling me about her assignment and that she just needed to go for a walk and take a break.
Basically just call them out I guess? Like seriously.. What is so awkward with strangers approaching other strangers and chatting/become friends?
People need to break out of the norms.
Also chicks seem to think that if a guy approaches them, the guy is trying to get in her pants. Sometimes I just wanna be friends.
[–]Benstillerfagget1 points 12 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeah it's kinda hard sometimes to go up to a girl without coming off as a creep
[–]Bodegaz 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How is it creepy? I'm single and bored out of my fukin mind. If I see you alone and your path collides with mine, I'm gonna interact with you.
And if u give me the slightest chance. I'm gonna put my dick in you.
I don't give a fuck
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